Men's program selection help in conjunction with a coach

[Shannon]

Shanon i am right now reading a book about nice guys, and they say the problem that nice guy pretend to needless and hide der humanity and this is the reason why they dont get their needs met

Nice guys have the problem that they try to conceal their desires and needs with other things, usually bribery and lies. Women can see that and know what it means. That is why they don't get their needs met.

Alphas, on the other hand, don't do that. They are needless. Here's an example.

The old beta me was that white knight wannabe "I'll be your shoulder to cry on" dork for every girl who cared to use me as a handkerchief. And some seriously hot girls took me up on that. But every one of them chose someone else to date and have sex with. I got to listen to her complain, and cry, and even got invited to their weddings. But I didn't get invited to kiss, have sex, date, etc. except for one girl who eventually invited me to her wedding, and married the guy she was pitting me against to shit test me.

Back then I was running on the instructions that dear old mom gave me. Be nice to girls, buy them gifts, listen to them, be considerate, yada yada. Basically, instead of being decent to them and balancing that with my own needs and self respect, I was instructed to be a doormat. And I was, and that produced me trying to get what I wanted and needed with manipulation. And mom didn't know she trained me to do it an I didn't know I was doing it. But every girl I was interested in tested me and I failed. Then she screwed the asshole who was rude, ignored her, tossed her aside and generally made her go looking for someone like me (or one of her girlfriends, not much difference between girlfriends and betas) to complain to.

Now, if I am interested in a woman, I'll spend some time observing her. I'll see if she is worth my effort and time by getting to know her a little bit, and then if she proves herself worth my time and effort I will express interest in her in ways that say I want to get to know her better, and I'm not aiming for just friendship. I don't buy her things unless she's been my girlfriend for a while and I know she understands that me buying her things is not going to be a common thing. I don't let her treat me like her handkerchief. You want to bitch about other guys? Cool, but it's not my thing, so please do that with someone else. I'm not your girlfriend. Gots ta go, got things to do. Catch you later.

I don't have to be manipulative anymore because I don't need her to fulfill me. I don't need her time, attention, approval, permission, affection, love or even sex. I can provide all of those for myself.

Would I prefer to have a woman provide those for me? Some of them. Love and sex are certainly on that list, but I need nobody's permission, attention or approval but my own. So I don't act in ways that are manipulative because I'm self providing, and I don't really need to pretend (lie) because I'm not afraid to lose her.

Betas lose out because they are not self providing. They are seeking her approval, attention, permission, guidance, love, sex, time and sometimes even her money. These are things a man needs to be providing for himself first, and not seeking them from someone else. That makes him weak and dependent on others for his survival.

When a woman seeks a man, she is seeking a man who can protect her, take care of her, guide her, and take care of any children he may father along the way. When you make her take on that role, she is uncomfortable. She wants what her genes are telling her is going to be a good bet for her babies' survival. Weak males are not a good bet for creating healthy babies, nor are they a good bet for protecting said babies or providing for them. She wants the strong ones, and the strong ones are usually the leaders. She wants the strongest she can get, just as men want the most reproductively fit females they can get. This is what makes a man attractive to a woman, and a woman attractive to a man.

Alpha provides for himself. Beta needs to be taken care of. Alpha therefore has nothing to lose by setting her straight and setting his desired boundaries. Beta stands to lose everything. Alpha therefore is honest, while betas lie and try to manipulate their way to what they want. Women can smell manipulative and deceitful behavior a mile away. That is why betas lose out.