09-26-2015, 12:25 PM
(09-26-2015, 11:52 AM)diamiteo Wrote: A dialogue between my mother and me a month ago...
"Give me that ***** laptop, you bitch!"
"No"
"Don't you hear me?!"
"No"
"I will kick you out of the house. I swear I will. Give me that ***** laptop! It is too late in the night."
"I am not in the mood to scream back at you. Please, go to sleep."
"You will pay for it, *****"
"Goodnight."
Point #1 - Refuse to play their game
All attempts to manipulate, control or dominate them is utterly useless. They are simply better at it. They are going to beat you every time. Hands down. They will jump on every opportunity to drag you down and get dirty. Emotions are webs weaved around you only if you entertain the spider. Avoid him, he will be willing to avoid you.
At the time of writing this, my mother just popped in and said: "If you fail in the examinations, I will tie you upside-down to the ceiling!" I smiled at her.
Do you get the idea? I hope so. Here are more examples:
"I will kick you out of the house!"
"Exciting! Should I start packing?"
"You are useless!"
"I am best at it. Thank you."
Indifference is the key.
Point #2 - Know where your priorities lie
You wouldn't have made this post if you were earning enough to move out right now. Right? You know what to do then - to strive towards financial independence. Isn't it? Hopefully.
Point #3 - What do you have to lose?
Threats are threats. And you are willing to cut ties with them anyway. Now, when your mother tells you to marry, and if you look into her eye and tell her, "No, I am not going to marry just because you say so." What do you have to lose? If you father tells you to tuck your shirt, and if you look into his eyes and tell him. "No, it is my body, it is my shirt. I am going to wear it as I please." What do you have to lose?
Bottom line: The crowd will chatter. If it isn't your parents, It can be your boss or your friends, or your girlfriend/wife. it is your job to find the right voice. The voice inside you.
Lol.
It's different when it's an Indian parent..
No boss and no gf equals up to the Indian parent.
We can kick up as many as gfs and bosses we want, no but that's not the case with parents. It's different. It's way too different.
There's a reason he mentioned those 15 next year's after 18.
If he has already talked to his parents and still with them just imagine how grave the matter is.
