It's all about the alpha male

[Cortez]

So I went to a random house party on Saturday. I still felt apprehensive/uncomfortable and not wanting to really approach anybody, somewhat no different than my days before I discovered subliminals. Is this just a weakness of my character?

I find it difficult to approach people in general. I don't think it was the randomness of the house party, although when I have my own house parties (which are very rare) I do talk to everyone there since it is my place. I was at this party because I am good friends with 2/3rds of the band playing that night. Maybe it is the randomness of the house party. When I think about talking to women, I still have worries about whether or not I sound stupid, or whether or not I appear cool. It's automatic and I'm not really sure how to get rid of it. I have read tons of PUA material, and truth be told I never followed it at all. Just going out there and doing cold approaches definitely will not solve the issue since I just seem to have some fear of doing it already. Is there any advice anyone has to give me on this matter? I feel a little helpless here since this is something that I have yet to solve, even after years of attempting (since i've read lots and lots of pua material).

Reframing is the best way to get rid of these beliefs. Why do you feel the need to get something from these people you're talking to? Because that's the only reason you feel anxiety in dealing with people. Your personality is probably not one where you feel the need to approach every single person and on that case it won't be physically congruent when you do or in other words, it will just seem off. So therefore, only do what you feel like doing. Everything you do will be natural then. Seek what you will get the most enjoyment out of at any given moment, not what you think you need to do to get enjoyment at some later date. You can either be the life of the party or you can be the James Bond type and both are equally powerful. The only important part to both of them is that you remove neediness from the equation and the alpha set will help you with that. You'll be fine. Trust me.