07-15-2015, 08:18 AM
Lately I've been finding things in my life that answer the questions I'm always thinking of or pondering. It's like a weird synchronicity. Anyway after reading more of Reality Transurfing the author brought up self worth issues. This was right after I had finished making my post the other day. One of the things he emphasized was that building up your self worth is a trap, and it's better to not put importance on self worth to begin with. The less you see it as a problem, the more it fades away on it's own.
In a way I agree with him. Trying to convince yourself of your self worth is an exercise in futility. All the times I've tried have backfired pretty badly and made me feel worse. It's usually when I stop seeing it as such a huge problem I'm feeling my best. But I've also realized that simply telling myself self worth doesn't matter doesn't necessarily change my behavior. There are small reminders throughout the day that I'm mindful of that point towards internalized issues.
This is where it gets philosophical for me. Are we living day to day, in charge of our actions and as long as we focus on what we want and desire that's all that matters? Some psychologists believe that behaviors are merely patterns that can be broken or altered, with no meaningful connection to the past and they exist on the surface level of the mind. Or does the subconscious mind hold a lot of power and subtly dictate our actions, sometimes not even being aware of it. And it goes deep, very deep. Sometimes enough where only hypnosis or subliminals can make a meaningful impact.
I thought of this because in the book Reality Transurfing the author outlines the thoughts you should hold and what behaviors to change to allow you to live the life you want. But to me he took a mindset which starts in the subconscious and put that into words. While his words have value and have some impact on mindset, it seems like it's almost backwards. I've met people who have the mindset right off the bat and they just flow through life with minimal obstacles. They didn't learn anything. No doubt you've encountered these people in your life too.
It's like taking a really complex object and describing it to someone without them seeing it and then having to draw it or create a mental picture of it. You might get it, but if it's really complex the odds are against you. This is all the self help books people read. Whereas taking that complex object and actually showing it to the other person so they understand the minute detail of it is like subliminals. It's the direct path to understanding. I've always found that anything self help related never really sticks. There's a huge difference between intellectually understanding something vs embodying those beliefs and intuitive knowledge. Maybe it's just me and this doesn't apply to everyone, but I find that I'm not easily changed by anything from the conscious approach. Perhaps it's my personality type. In a way I'm not easily manipulated, but at the same time I find it incredibly difficult to make changes.
In a way I agree with him. Trying to convince yourself of your self worth is an exercise in futility. All the times I've tried have backfired pretty badly and made me feel worse. It's usually when I stop seeing it as such a huge problem I'm feeling my best. But I've also realized that simply telling myself self worth doesn't matter doesn't necessarily change my behavior. There are small reminders throughout the day that I'm mindful of that point towards internalized issues.
This is where it gets philosophical for me. Are we living day to day, in charge of our actions and as long as we focus on what we want and desire that's all that matters? Some psychologists believe that behaviors are merely patterns that can be broken or altered, with no meaningful connection to the past and they exist on the surface level of the mind. Or does the subconscious mind hold a lot of power and subtly dictate our actions, sometimes not even being aware of it. And it goes deep, very deep. Sometimes enough where only hypnosis or subliminals can make a meaningful impact.
I thought of this because in the book Reality Transurfing the author outlines the thoughts you should hold and what behaviors to change to allow you to live the life you want. But to me he took a mindset which starts in the subconscious and put that into words. While his words have value and have some impact on mindset, it seems like it's almost backwards. I've met people who have the mindset right off the bat and they just flow through life with minimal obstacles. They didn't learn anything. No doubt you've encountered these people in your life too.
It's like taking a really complex object and describing it to someone without them seeing it and then having to draw it or create a mental picture of it. You might get it, but if it's really complex the odds are against you. This is all the self help books people read. Whereas taking that complex object and actually showing it to the other person so they understand the minute detail of it is like subliminals. It's the direct path to understanding. I've always found that anything self help related never really sticks. There's a huge difference between intellectually understanding something vs embodying those beliefs and intuitive knowledge. Maybe it's just me and this doesn't apply to everyone, but I find that I'm not easily changed by anything from the conscious approach. Perhaps it's my personality type. In a way I'm not easily manipulated, but at the same time I find it incredibly difficult to make changes.
