06-28-2015, 06:13 AM
Pretty interested in this concept for a belief-change process I collated today. It started with a very quick thought that i jotted down before I went out last night. Basically I have a choice I make which is not supporting me. I then identify the beliefs, list examples where the choice hasn't supported me, and where doing the opposite has. I then come up with a bunch of smaller steps to bridge the gap between the choice and the holy grail choice. I then list a bunch of choice affirmations such as 'I choose to focus on myself first in all choices I make'.
There can be different levels for that last part. Mine is that I don't touch women when I first meet them. My choice points are to aim to touch a girl within the first 60 seconds of meeting her (hand shake excluded) and to let the touch linger, even if it's just holding her hand for a couple of seconds longer. Just doing that alone turns up the intensity. A Level 2 choice step might be to move in closer when I can't hear her, put my hand on her lower back and leave it there. So it's a bit like baby-step conditioning.
There can be different levels for that last part. Mine is that I don't touch women when I first meet them. My choice points are to aim to touch a girl within the first 60 seconds of meeting her (hand shake excluded) and to let the touch linger, even if it's just holding her hand for a couple of seconds longer. Just doing that alone turns up the intensity. A Level 2 choice step might be to move in closer when I can't hear her, put my hand on her lower back and leave it there. So it's a bit like baby-step conditioning.
