AM/SM/WM

[Shannon]

Hi all,

I was watching Christian Grey of Fifty Shades of Grey and I'm curious. Does AM eventually give us that raw sexual magnetism/presence that he exudes? I don't want to be just about the sex but more about that physical presence he has.

I was very disappointed with that movie. It was obvious to me that it was not written with a real understanding of what D/s is, and I would be surprised to hear that the author had any real experience with being dominant or submissive. Dominants need more than anything else, self mastery. He did not have that. In fact he ended up being controlled by her. That's what happens when someone tries to be what they are not. True dominance is always based in self mastery, not "f*cked-up-ness" as is the implication and statement in that movie.

That animal magnetism comes from strength, and that strength comes from self mastery. Once you have that, you can experience and express that animal magnetism because it comes from a primal power exchange. AM can result in that, once you have used it enough and grown enough. Not everyone is naturally dominant in a D/s sort of way. But sufficient self mastery, and the resulting strength (and therefore animal magnetism), is possible for every man.