wm2 so far so good

[Benjamin]

I disagree that you have to be either extreme.. maybe you just haven't been able to find it yet.

If you think about it with your own life, well I can give an example. Like I lift weights and that is the primal, raw kind of part of me.. masculine.. powerful whatever..

But then I also like to relax.. listen to chillout music.. sit on the beach in the sun and just enjoy the waves.. that is the other more gentle side.. and i've found I need both of these sides of me to be expressed.

Even with the gym.. I do the weights but I also do foam rolling before my workout which barely any guys do and it helps tons, I used to get sore knees squatting but that's gone now, same with different annoying soreness in my arms sometimes.

You've been taught the all or nothing thinking.. that there is only 'total nice guy' or 'pure asshole' and that isn't necessarily true. One of my ex's said something interesting that she loved it how I can be gentle, sweet at times but then on the other hand if I had to I could unleash and smash somebody or show that other side of me if needed.