02-07-2015, 09:57 AM
Ok I'm a bit confused. I reread this thread and I don't off hand recall who it was but they said more than once how these RSD guys go out 5-7 times or nights a week to meet women.I know very little to nothing about the RSD people but if you have been doing this for 10-15 years I have to question not only the person doing that but anyone who thinks this is even remotely alpha or even healthy. I get wanting to meet new people but that amount of time put into it not only seems incredibly excessive but you're also whether you know it or not basing your potential happiness or self worth on an external outcome or source that you have no control over.
Being alpha is eliminating the need for outside or external factors to dictate not only who you are but what you focus on.I wasted a lot of years thinking all I needed to do was meet the right girl/woman and my life would be perfect. I based all of my happiness not only on that but on constantly seeking approval from others and paranoid as **** if I even thought someone might be mad at me.It's no wonder I developed severe anxiety and I'm often surprised I didn't get an ulcer or 4.
When the AM description states " unconcerned with getting the girl" to me it means not being attached to an outcome. That in itself I would think would be incredibly freeing in that you don't feel any internal pressure to force something to work or make something happen which allows you to relax which I would think would also by extension allow whoever you meet to feel more relaxed as well as they don't feel pressured.
I used to read PUA material but I don't like the fact that its all or at least a lot of what I read seemed to be about trying to in some way trick or manipulate a girl/woman to like you or sleep with you.Does anyone think a real genuine alpha needs to do that? I will say though that when I did read PUA stuff the one thing that stuck out to me was the inner game .I'm not entirely sure how that is defined by the PUA community but I would think if folks were more concerned with developing who they are or want to be as men then everything thing else would fall into place.
Being alpha is eliminating the need for outside or external factors to dictate not only who you are but what you focus on.I wasted a lot of years thinking all I needed to do was meet the right girl/woman and my life would be perfect. I based all of my happiness not only on that but on constantly seeking approval from others and paranoid as **** if I even thought someone might be mad at me.It's no wonder I developed severe anxiety and I'm often surprised I didn't get an ulcer or 4.
When the AM description states " unconcerned with getting the girl" to me it means not being attached to an outcome. That in itself I would think would be incredibly freeing in that you don't feel any internal pressure to force something to work or make something happen which allows you to relax which I would think would also by extension allow whoever you meet to feel more relaxed as well as they don't feel pressured.
I used to read PUA material but I don't like the fact that its all or at least a lot of what I read seemed to be about trying to in some way trick or manipulate a girl/woman to like you or sleep with you.Does anyone think a real genuine alpha needs to do that? I will say though that when I did read PUA stuff the one thing that stuck out to me was the inner game .I'm not entirely sure how that is defined by the PUA community but I would think if folks were more concerned with developing who they are or want to be as men then everything thing else would fall into place.
