01-04-2011, 06:54 PM
Well of course, I started out small and built my way up over the past year. I'll admit my moments of high anxiety kept me from tackling these things. I remember last year around this time it was difficult for me to go out by myself. But I took small steps like go out to get a coffee (walking inside instead of going through drive-thru), going to the store every chance I could, trying to walk in front of large groups at school, just constantly pushing my comfort zone. I eventually got the point where I would go to the mall twice per week just to eat lunch and walk around. Then I would go to the store daily to buy useless shit just to get out and walk around. Eventually, I gained more confidence and started small talk with others. Now I've pushed that even further. Same with women, obviously. I started out small, simple touching, flirting, teasing. Eventually, started pushing sexual stuff on them. For me though, I just do what feels natural. If I'm in the moment, I'll naturally feel like touching her or putting my arm around her if I feel some sort of connection (and if the signs are present of course), or I will grab her hand, etc. I believe some of this is also just a natural response from earlier in my life, I've had quite a bit of girlfriends when I was younger. At that point it's only natural I feel 100% confident in leading things to sex. If she's not pulling away, she enjoys it, take things further like kissing. When I kiss I can get aggressive with the touching and feeling up and she usually does the same. From there, sex is guaranteed.
