09-14-2014, 11:44 PM
(This post was last modified: 09-14-2014, 11:45 PM by RainbowAbyss.)
@ Ben-I have a similar experience with high confidence, but it doesn't always translate to success with woman for me.
People tote that confidence and humor are the keys to success with woman...and I'm sure they help as far as socializing but there definitely not the defining factors in creating an intimate encounter... Her attraction is her attraction for a guy...girls find guys funny when their attracted to them, and want the guy to like them... if I've turned an unresponsive woman giggly its not cause of my humor its cause the strength and adaptability I've displayed in shifting the situation. I've heard that the only Humor that is sexy is humor that instantly contextualizes a situation in a way that shows an ability to predict the environment in relation to other environments and/or change. Its a sign of survival and flourishing intelligence...Honestly the more I learn with this stuff the less I know...I don't know what does what anymore...
Here's my hangup, the thing-I can lead an interaction from meet to sex or seeing each other again... fairly consistently, I can't do it with the woman I am most/really attracted to, except through tinder
, and the moment I stop leading things stop working...of course a masculine man leads but come one, I've seen girls go out of their way to hook up with certain guys, strive to push the interaction when it starts to fall apart, or keep trying to find or talk with the guy they talked to before...as far as I know currently I get none of that, that just doesn't happen to me....and it has me seriously doubting the way I go about thinks..or my mindset concerning this all in general....I believe the less my emotions, state, sense of self, shifts, authentically not pretending, AT ALL in relation to what happens or doesn't happen with woman-I'll be more of who I want to be in this area and have more of these woman chasing interactions.
So with cold approach I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place...I love doing it on one hand and on the other I'm so fucking over trying to get a stranger to respond well to me lol. And why should it matter-I want to actually use it only as an extension of myself to bring and keep the woman I really like into my life... instead of a thing in and of itself
People tote that confidence and humor are the keys to success with woman...and I'm sure they help as far as socializing but there definitely not the defining factors in creating an intimate encounter... Her attraction is her attraction for a guy...girls find guys funny when their attracted to them, and want the guy to like them... if I've turned an unresponsive woman giggly its not cause of my humor its cause the strength and adaptability I've displayed in shifting the situation. I've heard that the only Humor that is sexy is humor that instantly contextualizes a situation in a way that shows an ability to predict the environment in relation to other environments and/or change. Its a sign of survival and flourishing intelligence...Honestly the more I learn with this stuff the less I know...I don't know what does what anymore...
Here's my hangup, the thing-I can lead an interaction from meet to sex or seeing each other again... fairly consistently, I can't do it with the woman I am most/really attracted to, except through tinder
, and the moment I stop leading things stop working...of course a masculine man leads but come one, I've seen girls go out of their way to hook up with certain guys, strive to push the interaction when it starts to fall apart, or keep trying to find or talk with the guy they talked to before...as far as I know currently I get none of that, that just doesn't happen to me....and it has me seriously doubting the way I go about thinks..or my mindset concerning this all in general....I believe the less my emotions, state, sense of self, shifts, authentically not pretending, AT ALL in relation to what happens or doesn't happen with woman-I'll be more of who I want to be in this area and have more of these woman chasing interactions.So with cold approach I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place...I love doing it on one hand and on the other I'm so fucking over trying to get a stranger to respond well to me lol. And why should it matter-I want to actually use it only as an extension of myself to bring and keep the woman I really like into my life... instead of a thing in and of itself
1. There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.
2. A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions... Success and failure are for him answers above all.
3. I would not know what the spirit of a philosopher might wish more then to be than a good dancer.-F.N.
2. A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions... Success and failure are for him answers above all.
3. I would not know what the spirit of a philosopher might wish more then to be than a good dancer.-F.N.
