12-29-2010, 05:25 AM
(12-28-2010, 09:10 PM)ronatello Wrote:Quote: Oh and I've been rejected by a lot of 'average' looking girls lately. The ones who don't seem to instantly throw me out of their life are the more good-looking ones, which could be a self-esteem issue? Just found that odd.The 'average' girls are probably thinking "why is he looking at poor little ol me?"
David X once said, the "average" ones are much harder to pick up than the pretty ones. I have an inkling that he's right.
So instead of it usually being "she's out of my league", it's now flipped over to "he's out of my league".
Exactly right. Nobody likes to be rejected, so a person will tend to resist attentions or interest from someone they see as being a "flight risk". If I am an 8.5 out of 10, and I start hitting on a 4, she is very likely going to think I am teasing her because she perceives me as being so much more attractive to other women than she is to other men. She starts thinking, "Some hot woman is gonna come along and he's going to leave me, and that's going to hurt... I don't want to get hurt, so I'll just nip this in the bud."
That's why you see couples who look the most alike making it the longest in most cases. All the women I have dated for long periods of time were at or very close to my own level of attractiveness. Usually, it happens in a -1, 0, +1 range if you use the 1 to 10 scale. An 8 will date a 7, 8 or 9 most of the time; a 5 will date a 4, 5 or 6, etc. Just a matter of self preservation, if they're not just looking to score.
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