20/08/14
Quick update is that tonight I was at a singles party I sometimes go to and I mostly just go there socially as I don't fancy the guys, with some exception and things HAVE happened there ;-) but rarely. Nice when they do but I mostly go for a laugh, meet new people, nice conversations and keep my social and flirting skills sharp. I think I scanned the room more than usual at the start, rather than stay as much in my little comfort zone, although I DID do that a bit later, talk to the host a few times and get into purely platonic convos. But I did a bit of extra scanning than usual at the start not loads but maybe a minute longer and felt confident enough to strike up conversations with any prospective guys if I saw them (but I didn't see anyone I fancied.) I also may have had the best looking guy - still not enough of my type - come over and talk to me briefly after asking me to babysit his drink while he went to the gents. He was a fair bit older than me which is fine except I am going through a my age and younger phase --- I vary --- but maybe I should have I dunno done SOMETHING just to see but I didn't feel interested enough. Still, on reflection, I think he was the best looking guy there in my opinion and he struck up a conversation with me so that was nice. I also think if we'd clicked more in our conversation and found common ground, THEN I would have exchanged numbers or something, YES.
One thing I did that was DEFINITELY out of character quite flirty for me was when another guy said hi in the group and was introducing himself to us, I told him he smelled nice! He did and me and the host had a brief chat about the manfume he was wearing. I didn't fancy him but I DID like the way he smelled and I do love some manfumes and after shaves on guys. Anyway that was more flirty and forward than usual! I also sort of flirted with the barman, had this chat with him about making cocktails - which I find quite fascinating and the weird thing is that I feel a little bit like even other women seem more relaxed around me and a couple of THEM even slightly flirty. So I think I am sending out slightly more flirty vibes than before, definitely.
And the extra eye contact with guys has continued. Before this sub I have been going through a stage where if I would look at a guy they'd look scared and sometimes I'd catch them looking at me and they'd look away, like I'd caught them! But like I said before, now it's like they are more confident in that they will hold the eye contact for a few seconds longer and some will smile.
I also had this business man type staring at me on the train and this dude in a leather jacket and shades said hi to me as he walked past. I went through a stage of the staring but it stopped for about a year and I don't often get guys say hi to me in the street.
Like I said, it's like it's making ME come across as more approachable and attractive somehow.
Quick update is that tonight I was at a singles party I sometimes go to and I mostly just go there socially as I don't fancy the guys, with some exception and things HAVE happened there ;-) but rarely. Nice when they do but I mostly go for a laugh, meet new people, nice conversations and keep my social and flirting skills sharp. I think I scanned the room more than usual at the start, rather than stay as much in my little comfort zone, although I DID do that a bit later, talk to the host a few times and get into purely platonic convos. But I did a bit of extra scanning than usual at the start not loads but maybe a minute longer and felt confident enough to strike up conversations with any prospective guys if I saw them (but I didn't see anyone I fancied.) I also may have had the best looking guy - still not enough of my type - come over and talk to me briefly after asking me to babysit his drink while he went to the gents. He was a fair bit older than me which is fine except I am going through a my age and younger phase --- I vary --- but maybe I should have I dunno done SOMETHING just to see but I didn't feel interested enough. Still, on reflection, I think he was the best looking guy there in my opinion and he struck up a conversation with me so that was nice. I also think if we'd clicked more in our conversation and found common ground, THEN I would have exchanged numbers or something, YES.
One thing I did that was DEFINITELY out of character quite flirty for me was when another guy said hi in the group and was introducing himself to us, I told him he smelled nice! He did and me and the host had a brief chat about the manfume he was wearing. I didn't fancy him but I DID like the way he smelled and I do love some manfumes and after shaves on guys. Anyway that was more flirty and forward than usual! I also sort of flirted with the barman, had this chat with him about making cocktails - which I find quite fascinating and the weird thing is that I feel a little bit like even other women seem more relaxed around me and a couple of THEM even slightly flirty. So I think I am sending out slightly more flirty vibes than before, definitely.
And the extra eye contact with guys has continued. Before this sub I have been going through a stage where if I would look at a guy they'd look scared and sometimes I'd catch them looking at me and they'd look away, like I'd caught them! But like I said before, now it's like they are more confident in that they will hold the eye contact for a few seconds longer and some will smile.
I also had this business man type staring at me on the train and this dude in a leather jacket and shades said hi to me as he walked past. I went through a stage of the staring but it stopped for about a year and I don't often get guys say hi to me in the street.
Like I said, it's like it's making ME come across as more approachable and attractive somehow.
