(08-07-2014, 08:46 AM)Uncle Bob Wrote: This weaves into a conscious theme I was pondering lately: The women I got away with were not the usual type, where you try to impress and make an ass of yourself ( which I pretty much did my whole youth, which gave me a bad self image, which was a lie ). The women I got away, were those, which I instantly liked, felt at home and ease with, and did not put the pressure on me to impress them. It was not necessary. All happened in a natural way and one thing lead to the other. Everything was ok.
Yes, I've had the exact same experience. Its interesting. I've thought women are probably afraid of seeming too easy and that we might not respect them because of it or whatever.. but I've got to say the best quality women I've been with to date have not put up that much of a struggle. In fact, they've been very open about it and it just never was an issue. And that definitely did not lower my respect towards them, quite the opposite actually.
I know we as men are supposed to set the tone that "sex is normal", but if the woman feels she needs to put up all kinds of barriers for sex, then we are put into to position/frame that we have to do something to *get* sex from her, which destroys the natural vibe of it and, IMO, actually works to objectify her in my mind whereas before she was more human (natural).
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