11-08-2010, 11:26 AM
Quote:It will be interesting to see how you fare in your escalation quests. I read many people write there is no intention when they are chatting away to someone attractive and I start to wonder if it is just ego protection. How comes the attractive girls you were chatting to not amazing enough for you to take it further? What happens if the amazing woman you are saving yourself for doesn't exist, what would you do different?
Admittedly escalation of any kind has always been a sticking point for me. Not out of - direct - ego protection but more procrastination; "not today; maybe tomorrow". I know this probably is direct ego protection and a bad habit I've developed just to remain comfortable. I really need to give seize the day a good run once I've got through Women Magnet, but that is not the point I was trying to make. The point was that there seems to have been a transmutation of all desire towards the desire for light-hearted fun. Just really comfortable, bonding banter. I can still - and still do - escalate with women I like very comfortably and with ease I'm just feeling less need to do so. Like, as if, times I have in the past have been more about validation and reputation than anything else.
On Friday when I got out the house and went out, I twice told two separate girls "how cold are your hands" then it occurred to me later that both of the girls had walked directly up to me and put there hands on my arms/hands and held them there for several minutes whilst talking to me. One of the girls was outside at the time, and the other girls - a few hours later - was inside. But the point is, twice I was approached and twice I was kinoed.
“To be normal is the ideal aim of the unsuccessful.” - Carl Jung
