04-25-2014, 03:03 AM
(04-22-2014, 01:57 PM)richlife70 Wrote: Hi Shannon - or anyone else who can help. :-)
This is my first post, but I've spent months scouring the forums and educating myself on the many subs and the testimonials from other posters. The information on here is invaluable and I cannot thank everyone enough for your willingness to share your experiences so the rest of us can benefit from it.
I'm just freshly out of a 3+ year live-in relationship that ended because he cheated and thought perhaps using EHPRA might be the best way to to move on by using it for at least 32 days. It's only since I started using EHPRA and the first time I did have a dream and even though I cannot quite recall what it was about, it did make an impact on me. Nothing special happened on night two. Tonight would be the third use of the sub.
The thing is, I have not been feeling too miserable.....which could be because we don't travel in the same circles and I am not really seeing him around. I did a whole bunch of crying in the first week and while I understand that I will have to grieve the end of the relationship, I set myself a limit of two weeks to get myself together to start back on the road to making myself and my needs priorities one through ten.
I am blessed (and cursed) with the impatient gene and always looking ahead, so I am wondering if I should switch to ASC for 90 days instead of continuing with EHPRA. Also, because I am in my mid-40's and I am now ready for my next coupling to lead to something more permanent, my plan is to purchase a sub to attract a relationship that hopefully leads to marriage.
Is my timeframe a bit too ambitious? Grateful for any comments, suggestions, guidance on this plan of mine?
There is a reason you choosed EHPRA, so my suggestion would be to continue what you began for 32days. And then you will see how you feel. Afterwards if you think you need more confidence, do ASC. If not then do AYP Lover/Boyfriend/Husband, what you think is right for you.
