10-10-2010, 03:24 AM
Just a weekly update and some reflection.
I never give direct compliments. I used to but I was so bad at them I learnt to avoid giving them. I always come across as try hard and fake when I give a compliment no matter how sincere I am. After the Alpha set I found myself dumbfounded by the extent of most* peoples self-pity, "problems" and other emotional hurt feelings. I hadn't become an autonomous robot or anything it was just that a lot of peoples neediness genuinely confused me. With Women Magnet I'm seeing more of the social, charismatic, peoples-person side come through and coupled with the wisdom of the Alpha set I'm more and more often finding myself in situations where I need to bolster the self esteem and feelings of others. I'm often parenting grown men; not a role I directly identify with or exert myself at fully but I enjoy restoring the balance and it's how, I've learnt, I flex my leadership muscle. So I do step into the role but by no means go out, look for it or chase it; it doesn't bring meaning to my life, I need to make that clear. I'd - outside of my own awareness - developed a way round the compliment issue by giving people the space to express themselves whilst also letting them feed of my positivity and "compliment" them that way. I don't like the lime-light much and I genuinely prefer to listen to people. This translates and feels like "charisma" to a lot of people around me - to those who prefer to be listened to - so I'd neatly, side stepped the compliment issue. But now, like I said, with people coming to me as the together guy seeking advice and what-have-you I'm having to teach myself from scratch how to directly give a compliment. Luckily Women Magnet has even more so brought the charismatic side out of me. After completing the set I now plan on using speak authoritatively with the Develop Irresistible Charisma sub to intensify this aspect of myself further. I don't know if the Charisma sub deals with complimenting directly does it? I'm really surprised more people haven't used that one. Either way, learning how to compliment is something I'm currently working on. It speaks wonders for Women Magnet that I wake up ever morning feeling more love, empathy and compassion for people; I've always been good at loving humanity but with the devil in the details and all that jazz loving the individuals has been more difficult lol. I never expected this from Women Magnet but it is certainly a nice surprise.
For those interested in how Women Magnet is making me better with Women, I'm noticing that they are much more warmer and immediately responsive to me. I've never been able to make such a good first impression; and that is currently where I'm noticing the most change to how Women respond to me - with first impressions. Massive impact and just loads of smiles and cute timidness. I'm actually noticing Women respond to me first before I do anything. This is noticeable every time I'm in a shop or anywhere else that has people on tills or behind bars.
*I don't want to say most but unfortunately, a lot of the times, it seems that way.
I never give direct compliments. I used to but I was so bad at them I learnt to avoid giving them. I always come across as try hard and fake when I give a compliment no matter how sincere I am. After the Alpha set I found myself dumbfounded by the extent of most* peoples self-pity, "problems" and other emotional hurt feelings. I hadn't become an autonomous robot or anything it was just that a lot of peoples neediness genuinely confused me. With Women Magnet I'm seeing more of the social, charismatic, peoples-person side come through and coupled with the wisdom of the Alpha set I'm more and more often finding myself in situations where I need to bolster the self esteem and feelings of others. I'm often parenting grown men; not a role I directly identify with or exert myself at fully but I enjoy restoring the balance and it's how, I've learnt, I flex my leadership muscle. So I do step into the role but by no means go out, look for it or chase it; it doesn't bring meaning to my life, I need to make that clear. I'd - outside of my own awareness - developed a way round the compliment issue by giving people the space to express themselves whilst also letting them feed of my positivity and "compliment" them that way. I don't like the lime-light much and I genuinely prefer to listen to people. This translates and feels like "charisma" to a lot of people around me - to those who prefer to be listened to - so I'd neatly, side stepped the compliment issue. But now, like I said, with people coming to me as the together guy seeking advice and what-have-you I'm having to teach myself from scratch how to directly give a compliment. Luckily Women Magnet has even more so brought the charismatic side out of me. After completing the set I now plan on using speak authoritatively with the Develop Irresistible Charisma sub to intensify this aspect of myself further. I don't know if the Charisma sub deals with complimenting directly does it? I'm really surprised more people haven't used that one. Either way, learning how to compliment is something I'm currently working on. It speaks wonders for Women Magnet that I wake up ever morning feeling more love, empathy and compassion for people; I've always been good at loving humanity but with the devil in the details and all that jazz loving the individuals has been more difficult lol. I never expected this from Women Magnet but it is certainly a nice surprise.
For those interested in how Women Magnet is making me better with Women, I'm noticing that they are much more warmer and immediately responsive to me. I've never been able to make such a good first impression; and that is currently where I'm noticing the most change to how Women respond to me - with first impressions. Massive impact and just loads of smiles and cute timidness. I'm actually noticing Women respond to me first before I do anything. This is noticeable every time I'm in a shop or anywhere else that has people on tills or behind bars.
*I don't want to say most but unfortunately, a lot of the times, it seems that way.
“To be normal is the ideal aim of the unsuccessful.” - Carl Jung
