01-05-2014, 11:14 PM
I'm posting to this as some thoughts I had in response to a thread in Ryan's Journal about dealing with guys when interacting with woman. Any feedback or insight is most welcome.
I believe its best to read the situation quickly. However Usually most guys stay away from me when I'm interacting with woman
Here is my thoughts on why that is/ how to do that.
1. Its so obvious that were super into each other, that its like were in our own world so it was just be really awkward for whoever is trying to get involved. Were usually already touching each other as well. Even if I just met a woman-everything in her world is about me/ us..because I get signals before I even start talking to her, I know she want's to meet me, and even if I don't/ I'm so present that she get's super present as well. I do that by feeling good, and feeling my attraction for her, nature and mushin take care of the rest.
Back in the day, even when a woman would be blatantly not interested, my friends would always think I either knew the girl or that she was super into me. That taught me a lot lol
Making it look like we were super into each other or knew each other-turned to feeling and assuming that-(calibration required)
2nd reason I'm don't have to deal with other men I believe. I'm 5'8 and 205 pounds of lean muscle, I also have a big beard and a wolverine like haircut-so I kind of look like wolverine..which means guys don't want to risk anything that could be confrontational until they find out how quick my healing factor is. I'm kidding of course...but since most men on this forum on are in some capacity looking to become more "Alpha"/ Respected/ leaders...I think it can go without saying that having some sort of edgy look/ vibe can be very beneficial, I believe people can read what they can or cannot get away with around you, at the very least not to stand out as someone who can be walked on.
When other men do come into the equation-I stick to the ZERO COMPETITION mindset.
I remember Skyy saying this and it was awesome. It just means there is enough self belief that it never comes into question. I actually met a gorgeous girl last night at a bar with games-I was tastefully ripping on her for being terrible at it-I thought she was really cool and she kept coming back to play the game that I was near-even though it clearly sucked-then later she said goodbye and that she had to go hang with her friend, this guy she came with, I said goodbye and went to leave, and two minutes later she ran outside where I was -asking me not to leave and to play this game with her. The rest was history. I never once thought I was competing with her male friend, she said he liked her but she didn't like him like that, I felt a little bad because that was me in the past-but we all pay our dues until we learn I suppose.
Here are my thoughts on when I have to interact with guys
1. The chill guy/ the gentleman. In my experience if the guy is cool and being a gentleman-no reason not to talk to him-it actually makes going home with his friend (the woman) or meeting up with her later WAY easier-I've even had guy's hook me up with their female friends because we genuinely got along.
2. There being douchy or acting like tools-trying to down play you- or ignore you in a negative way
Press them for info about their work life-Alot of dudes/men will start chewing your ear off if you talk to them about their career or deeper 'purposes' in life...if they are straight out Douches or tool- u can use this to your advantage and just keep telling him how cool that all is-eventually they'll just start liking you, since it seems on some primal level you support them, then Just deal with the woman from then on and unless there already dating/hooking up with her-no problems.
3. Competitive guy-
If some guy is straight out trying to compete-busting in-talking to the woman your with -usually he will blow himself out if you just keep talking or move yourself and her physically away from him-I don't have any pre-planned lines- but I have said things like "/ I'll take another beer/ " and turn back to the girl ; or if he keeps trying to talk while I'm taking I just tell the girl we should move because the guy is being creepy.
Now my favorite thing to do is just hand him a glass of water before he has a chance to think I pick the girl up and move away. (Obviously only for certain venues.)
4. In more formal social scenes-or social circle events-if a woman likes you she will find a way to stick around I feel
I believe its best to read the situation quickly. However Usually most guys stay away from me when I'm interacting with woman
Here is my thoughts on why that is/ how to do that.
1. Its so obvious that were super into each other, that its like were in our own world so it was just be really awkward for whoever is trying to get involved. Were usually already touching each other as well. Even if I just met a woman-everything in her world is about me/ us..because I get signals before I even start talking to her, I know she want's to meet me, and even if I don't/ I'm so present that she get's super present as well. I do that by feeling good, and feeling my attraction for her, nature and mushin take care of the rest.
Back in the day, even when a woman would be blatantly not interested, my friends would always think I either knew the girl or that she was super into me. That taught me a lot lol
Making it look like we were super into each other or knew each other-turned to feeling and assuming that-(calibration required)
2nd reason I'm don't have to deal with other men I believe. I'm 5'8 and 205 pounds of lean muscle, I also have a big beard and a wolverine like haircut-so I kind of look like wolverine..which means guys don't want to risk anything that could be confrontational until they find out how quick my healing factor is. I'm kidding of course...but since most men on this forum on are in some capacity looking to become more "Alpha"/ Respected/ leaders...I think it can go without saying that having some sort of edgy look/ vibe can be very beneficial, I believe people can read what they can or cannot get away with around you, at the very least not to stand out as someone who can be walked on.
When other men do come into the equation-I stick to the ZERO COMPETITION mindset.
I remember Skyy saying this and it was awesome. It just means there is enough self belief that it never comes into question. I actually met a gorgeous girl last night at a bar with games-I was tastefully ripping on her for being terrible at it-I thought she was really cool and she kept coming back to play the game that I was near-even though it clearly sucked-then later she said goodbye and that she had to go hang with her friend, this guy she came with, I said goodbye and went to leave, and two minutes later she ran outside where I was -asking me not to leave and to play this game with her. The rest was history. I never once thought I was competing with her male friend, she said he liked her but she didn't like him like that, I felt a little bad because that was me in the past-but we all pay our dues until we learn I suppose.
Here are my thoughts on when I have to interact with guys
1. The chill guy/ the gentleman. In my experience if the guy is cool and being a gentleman-no reason not to talk to him-it actually makes going home with his friend (the woman) or meeting up with her later WAY easier-I've even had guy's hook me up with their female friends because we genuinely got along.
2. There being douchy or acting like tools-trying to down play you- or ignore you in a negative way
Press them for info about their work life-Alot of dudes/men will start chewing your ear off if you talk to them about their career or deeper 'purposes' in life...if they are straight out Douches or tool- u can use this to your advantage and just keep telling him how cool that all is-eventually they'll just start liking you, since it seems on some primal level you support them, then Just deal with the woman from then on and unless there already dating/hooking up with her-no problems.
3. Competitive guy-
If some guy is straight out trying to compete-busting in-talking to the woman your with -usually he will blow himself out if you just keep talking or move yourself and her physically away from him-I don't have any pre-planned lines- but I have said things like "/ I'll take another beer/ " and turn back to the girl ; or if he keeps trying to talk while I'm taking I just tell the girl we should move because the guy is being creepy.
Now my favorite thing to do is just hand him a glass of water before he has a chance to think I pick the girl up and move away. (Obviously only for certain venues.)
4. In more formal social scenes-or social circle events-if a woman likes you she will find a way to stick around I feel
1. There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.
2. A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions... Success and failure are for him answers above all.
3. I would not know what the spirit of a philosopher might wish more then to be than a good dancer.-F.N.
2. A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions... Success and failure are for him answers above all.
3. I would not know what the spirit of a philosopher might wish more then to be than a good dancer.-F.N.
