10-27-2013, 04:23 PM
(10-27-2013, 03:38 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: So, like, saying "ok" but trying to kiss her anyways? I don't know what a "reaction" is, like, responding and reacting are two different things, right? What do you mean when you say she's looking for a reaction?
Well, I was trying to kiss her. She put her hand on my chest and stopped me. Stratos is right that sometimes women put up "token" resistance and you just have to push through but this wasn't that situation. This was a real no.
The reaction she is looking for is how I act after she rejected my advance. She wants to see if I take it like a man or not. You remember talking to your coach about push / pull right? She pulled me in with the flirty conversation then when I went for the kiss, she pushed me away. The purpose of the push / pull is to draw me in. She acts like she wants to hold the power but, not really. She wants to test me to see if I am willing to give my power away.
Am I going to start acting needy towards her? That is what she wants to know. Did this rejection effect my behavior towards her? If my behavior is exactly the same as before then she knows that I'm not going to give my power away so easily.
These tests don't happen because a woman wants to make your life hell. She wants to know that she can trust you. Are you showing her the real person that you are or is it some sort of act? Tests are like her way of saying "I like this guy you act like but, is it really who you are or are you just trying to impress me?"
If you're a witty guy and you can come up with responses like Stratos is talking about on the fly then go for it. Thats not who I am (at least not yet). I better playing my role which is to be unaffected by this. I'm going to treat her the same way before this ever happened.
