08-27-2013, 09:43 AM
Thanks guys! Two days away from stage 4. This stage has really hit me hard at the end. I could feel the resistance over the weekend so I decided to get some more time in listening. It came in the form of anxiety and depression. A feeling of needing to do something but thinking it was not possible for me.
Instead of sitting around, wallowing in the feeling, I grabbed a girl and went to see the Statue of Liberty. It was a perfect day to do something like that! It felt like one of those perfect fall days with the sun shining and the wind blowing across the water to cool you down. By the time the day was over, I was too tired to feel anxiety and too fulfilled to feel depressed.
There is one thought that I came away with however. I do have this fear of approaching women in random situations. Over time I have tried to rationalize away the need for this but what is really bothering me now is that I'm running away from that fear. Its funny because one of the reasons I think I started using subliminal audios was to avoid having to go out and do approaches.
The other funny thing is that I'm not actually that bad at doing approaches now. I met a pretty good friend here doing a random cold street approach. I did the approach in front of a couple dating coaches to get some feedback on how I did and sure enough, two hours later, they were gone and I was still talking to the girl.
I love the interactions but I hate the approach. My fear is really not logical at all anymore. I've done a fair number of "cold approaches" and very few turn out bad at all. Most of them are quite fun but by mind tries to convince me otherwise.
The reason I'm bringing this up is because I have decided to make it a habit to approach women. In order to do this I am going to approach at least one woman per day for the next month. I'm excited to see how much this impacts my social life and hopefully my fear of approaching. Today's approach is already in the books. My goal is not for numbers, dates or anything else. Those are not under my control but walking up to a woman and trying to start a conversation is completely under my control.
Instead of sitting around, wallowing in the feeling, I grabbed a girl and went to see the Statue of Liberty. It was a perfect day to do something like that! It felt like one of those perfect fall days with the sun shining and the wind blowing across the water to cool you down. By the time the day was over, I was too tired to feel anxiety and too fulfilled to feel depressed.
There is one thought that I came away with however. I do have this fear of approaching women in random situations. Over time I have tried to rationalize away the need for this but what is really bothering me now is that I'm running away from that fear. Its funny because one of the reasons I think I started using subliminal audios was to avoid having to go out and do approaches.
The other funny thing is that I'm not actually that bad at doing approaches now. I met a pretty good friend here doing a random cold street approach. I did the approach in front of a couple dating coaches to get some feedback on how I did and sure enough, two hours later, they were gone and I was still talking to the girl.
I love the interactions but I hate the approach. My fear is really not logical at all anymore. I've done a fair number of "cold approaches" and very few turn out bad at all. Most of them are quite fun but by mind tries to convince me otherwise.
The reason I'm bringing this up is because I have decided to make it a habit to approach women. In order to do this I am going to approach at least one woman per day for the next month. I'm excited to see how much this impacts my social life and hopefully my fear of approaching. Today's approach is already in the books. My goal is not for numbers, dates or anything else. Those are not under my control but walking up to a woman and trying to start a conversation is completely under my control.
