08-09-2013, 04:51 PM
Lately I've been feeling the urge to work on my personal style. As much as I've learned about myself over the years, the one thing I don't seem to have is how I present myself to the world. Obviously clothes don't make the man, but clothes are part of expressing who you are.
First thing I want to say is guys get a ton of crap for wanting to dress nicer or learn about fashion. You hear garbage like "real men don't care about fashion", but it's typically from a guy with a beer gut who dresses like a slob.
For a long long time I've worn a reserved style, just t shirts and jeans. Mostly I had the skater look going on. I just never felt secure enough to push my comfort zone and try new things out. I saw it as the more I stood out, the more attention I'd get. Not necessarily good attention either. When you dress nicer I think it makes others who don't try self conscious. Then they want to put you down so they can feel better about themselves.
Then there is my older brother. I know for a fact once I start dressing nicer and trying to work on my own personal style he's gonna say something. He hates clothes, he sees them as materialistic stupid superficial objects that he has to wear. I feel like that attitude rubbed off on me because for a while I felt guilty about wanting to look better. It's no wonder I hated shopping for new clothes or trying out different things, I was just filled with guilt about being some try hard loser. My brother has just been this vortex of negativity in my life, he has a lot of unresolved anger and his viewpoints are very rigid and fixed and he pushes them on everyone else without him even knowing it.
The alpha male program is definitely pushing me to redefine my outer image. I'm still unsure of exactly what that image looks like though. All I know is that this new image feels like a powerful symbol of change. The guilt about showing myself off to the world is lifting. It's not in a narcissistic way either. Rather it requires more energy to constantly push down that self expression and tell myself that it doesn't matter.
First thing I want to say is guys get a ton of crap for wanting to dress nicer or learn about fashion. You hear garbage like "real men don't care about fashion", but it's typically from a guy with a beer gut who dresses like a slob.
For a long long time I've worn a reserved style, just t shirts and jeans. Mostly I had the skater look going on. I just never felt secure enough to push my comfort zone and try new things out. I saw it as the more I stood out, the more attention I'd get. Not necessarily good attention either. When you dress nicer I think it makes others who don't try self conscious. Then they want to put you down so they can feel better about themselves.
Then there is my older brother. I know for a fact once I start dressing nicer and trying to work on my own personal style he's gonna say something. He hates clothes, he sees them as materialistic stupid superficial objects that he has to wear. I feel like that attitude rubbed off on me because for a while I felt guilty about wanting to look better. It's no wonder I hated shopping for new clothes or trying out different things, I was just filled with guilt about being some try hard loser. My brother has just been this vortex of negativity in my life, he has a lot of unresolved anger and his viewpoints are very rigid and fixed and he pushes them on everyone else without him even knowing it.
The alpha male program is definitely pushing me to redefine my outer image. I'm still unsure of exactly what that image looks like though. All I know is that this new image feels like a powerful symbol of change. The guilt about showing myself off to the world is lifting. It's not in a narcissistic way either. Rather it requires more energy to constantly push down that self expression and tell myself that it doesn't matter.
