07-12-2013, 09:42 PM
(07-12-2013, 05:34 PM)mat422 Wrote: That is pretty simple. Just keep working on yourself, I'm sure it will come in time. Any guilt associated with sex?
Yes and no. lol. It depends who is around when the sex topic comes up in conversation (I have a religious background, so anyone from my family is usually a source of me being nervous if the sex topic comes up from outside influences).
Then again, no experience, so I don't know. I'm inclined to think so though, which is another reason why I wanted to run SM. It supposedly deals with that.
(07-12-2013, 05:34 PM)mat422 Wrote: Makes perfect sense. Like that old saying, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
Yeah. But there's gotta be a way to help the horse WANT to drink, right? God I hope so.
(07-12-2013, 05:34 PM)mat422 Wrote: That comes with confidence I think. You decide what you want, go for it and if it doesn't work out no big deal. Easier said than done, but yeah I know what you're saying.
Well I've done it before (like approaching girls and asking for numbers, having meaningful and good conversations first etc), but I think my problem is maintaining that confidence. I really don't know why I don't keep on trying it to be honest, it's like I'm waiting for something, but I even think that's a bad idea, so who knows.
(07-12-2013, 05:34 PM)mat422 Wrote: Seems like an ok technique. I'm sure it works for some and not for others though. In my experience you have to actually believe what you're saying, that can get tricky if you've got that knee jerk "no I'm not response". That's why I think I'm better off with subliminals. They minimize that resistance.
Yeah see I have a different way of thinking when it comes to that. I just trust that my subconscious will make it work. I know I don't believe it now, but it's irrelevant. It's like handing your mind the tools to use when it needs them. Which is also why I like to read theories. Not to implement them, but to have that knowledge somewhere in my mind available to my subconscious if it needs it.
(07-12-2013, 05:34 PM)mat422 Wrote: Yeah I've used OGSF before. For me it was rough, good things came out of it though. A lot of subtle things, but I could tell it pushed me in that direction. I was pretty much unemployed because the fear was so bad, but after running it for a while I was able to push my comfort zone and finally get a job. It definitely helped out, so it might help you too.
Yeah I used it for 92 days before AM. It was my first program and it really seemed to help. I'm seeing that your issues are coming from resistance mostly, and that's ok. I'd just focus on how to break that down. Use more "foundation" programs like OGSF and AM until you're solid, then move forward.
Glad you got another job too, where you working now btw?
