12-29-2012, 03:16 PM
Alphatrial, think on this. You are not responsible for what emotions she chooses to respond to your actions with. She is. And if she is hurt, that is her choice of emotions, and it's okay, because she made that choice. Not you. You are responsible for YOU, and your actions. Not hers. So if it hurts her, that's unfortunate, but again... it's her choice how she responds. It's her responsibility how she responds. And it's your responsibility to take care of your needs, wants and desires.
By "threatening" to be hurt by you doing what she doesn't want you to do, she is manipulating you. By allowing her threat to dictate your course of action, you're allowing her to manipulate you.
Whenever you have a difficult negative cycle that keeps repeating itself, you can be sure it'll be the "k word", and it'll keep repeating itself until you learn from the pain and break the cycle.
By "threatening" to be hurt by you doing what she doesn't want you to do, she is manipulating you. By allowing her threat to dictate your course of action, you're allowing her to manipulate you.
Whenever you have a difficult negative cycle that keeps repeating itself, you can be sure it'll be the "k word", and it'll keep repeating itself until you learn from the pain and break the cycle.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!