12-29-2012, 09:55 AM
I had trouble leaving my previous girlfriend. That was due to fear, and she kept drawing me back in to the relationship easily because I was afraid. It was not a healthy relationship, and for a while I deceived myself by focusing only on the good parts and shoving the bad parts down. I held on to the belief I formed early in the relationship that we had a huge connection, and that it would all be OK eventually.
Try looking at "meeting women" from another perspective. It seems to me that you are very results-oriented in meeting women, in that you have a belief that meeting a woman is for the sole purpose of forming an intimate relationship with her. What would it be like if you let go of that belief, and instead adopted the belief that meeting women was just an opportunity to meet high quality people and bring them into your life, without any limits on what role they can take in your life? They can be acquaintances, friends, lovers, girlfriends, or candidates for marriage. There will be many acquaintances, few girlfriends, and a very select few who are candidates for marriage.
Think about it for a while: what would it be like?
Try looking at "meeting women" from another perspective. It seems to me that you are very results-oriented in meeting women, in that you have a belief that meeting a woman is for the sole purpose of forming an intimate relationship with her. What would it be like if you let go of that belief, and instead adopted the belief that meeting women was just an opportunity to meet high quality people and bring them into your life, without any limits on what role they can take in your life? They can be acquaintances, friends, lovers, girlfriends, or candidates for marriage. There will be many acquaintances, few girlfriends, and a very select few who are candidates for marriage.
Think about it for a while: what would it be like?
Fear is a liar.
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway