deal with divorce

[optom]

Hi optom and welcome! I’m not sure which sub would work best in your situation, although if there was one to kick your husband in the butt and out the door, that’s the one I’d opt for! But I understand that you have some major hurdles to think about and whenever there’s children involved, that makes everything harder.

I’m curious about a few things. You mentioned that he was ok to just keep going along this way. Do you want a sub that allows you to feel ok with the situation as it is? Or do you want one to change it?

If this other woman wasn’t in the picture, would you and/or he consider counseling?

I’m not sure if you’d want to do this but it’s an option of another type. Many moons ago my father in-law was having an affair. When my mother in-law (all four feet five inches of herself) found out, she went to the woman’s husband to let him know what was going on….and that ended that!

Hi Patti, I am not sure counseling would help. When we met he was married did not tell me only told me months later after he split up with his wife. Now he is "friends" with a married women, to be honest I would never trust him again.

It would have been great if there was a sub that I could play for him that would push him to accept that it is over and divorce me. What to do, I am thinking I should do something like AF and then maybe BASE or BAMM so that I can be independent. I would also like to use the new weight loss sub but not sure if it is aimed a really obese people or someone like me that just need to loose 18-20 kilo's.

At the moment I am trying some experimental subs to see what kind of results I get. I got the POSE vol 1 but it did not do anything for me so I think I should make sure that whatever sub I get will really work.

What ever is said and done before I move on I need to improve myself first even if it is just to build my self esteem back up.