deal with divorce

[Patti]

Hi optom and welcome! I’m not sure which sub would work best in your situation, although if there was one to kick your husband in the butt and out the door, that’s the one I’d opt for! But I understand that you have some major hurdles to think about and whenever there’s children involved, that makes everything harder.

I’m curious about a few things. You mentioned that he was ok to just keep going along this way. Do you want a sub that allows you to feel ok with the situation as it is? Or do you want one to change it?

If this other woman wasn’t in the picture, would you and/or he consider counseling?

I’m not sure if you’d want to do this but it’s an option of another type. Many moons ago my father in-law was having an affair. When my mother in-law (all four feet five inches of herself) found out, she went to the woman’s husband to let him know what was going on….and that ended that!