(11-01-2012, 12:51 AM)FunkeyMonkey Wrote: I definitely find the women attractive, so I don't think it's that. The woman could be a playboy playmate and I would reject her, because it's just this automatic thing that is avoiding...... Well something - that's the thing, I don't know what I'm avoiding. It's so automatic. I actually think the problem IS that I find her attractive. That's actually what triggers the auto-avoid.
I think you already know what your problem which is fear of rejection like you mentioned above, therefore you are not initiatiating, approaching, or taking direct action to meet women. That is explaining why you avoiding her.
I think I have the same problem as well, I have fear of rejection so I always try to find ways to protect myself being hurt or avoid something that will hurt my self esteem.
I just guessing that the subconscious were trying to protect you so as a result you will avoid situation that you think it will hurt you or your esteem (rejection).
Maybe master Shannon has better explanation and solution about about this.
It is not the goodbyes that hurt but the flashbacks that follow.....