10-20-2012, 08:25 PM
From a female perspective.. Sean is absolutely right. If a partner is "safe" a woman will open up to him. I find many men to be clueless and blundering when it comes to interacting with women, especially when sex is the subject. They do not bother to educate themselves properly, or use very poor sources of information, or are simply too selfish to go "further" and into mature sexual interactions.
Safe to an individual woman can be complex, and even if you are someone who is man enough for her to open up to, yes I did say man enough, it doesn't necessarily mean that her desires are going to be the same as yours. I'm far more liberal than my partner in terms of things like multiple partners, I respect him so am faithful. He is FAR more extreme in other ways and while I enjoy exploration I have no go activities and he respects my limits and we play within them. He cares enough to want me to have maximum pleasure in our activities, which is precisely WHY he is trustworthy and worth exploring with. His attitude is not about persuading me to do things I do not enjoy or want to do, simply because they turn him on. I trust he has my best interests. Trust, in combination with being an extremely satisfying experience will go very far to make a woman willing to explore. I recommend helping her to enjoy things to the fullest first before trying to get her to do things she finds distasteful.
Safe to an individual woman can be complex, and even if you are someone who is man enough for her to open up to, yes I did say man enough, it doesn't necessarily mean that her desires are going to be the same as yours. I'm far more liberal than my partner in terms of things like multiple partners, I respect him so am faithful. He is FAR more extreme in other ways and while I enjoy exploration I have no go activities and he respects my limits and we play within them. He cares enough to want me to have maximum pleasure in our activities, which is precisely WHY he is trustworthy and worth exploring with. His attitude is not about persuading me to do things I do not enjoy or want to do, simply because they turn him on. I trust he has my best interests. Trust, in combination with being an extremely satisfying experience will go very far to make a woman willing to explore. I recommend helping her to enjoy things to the fullest first before trying to get her to do things she finds distasteful.
