10-20-2012, 07:43 AM
Take it easy, AbiDrew. That's not how we roll around here. You make some good points, and I hate to see those hidden by flaming the guy.
zxttracr, have you tried Poetry of the Silent Eros, yet? Just being in the mood will generally open both partners to trying new things, and perhaps suggesting something during a passionate session will work wonders. With all those endorphins flowing, new things don't seem so scary. And remember, start small. If she's uncomfortable, jumping right into anal is probably going to be less successful than some near oral play.
To hear a woman's fantasies, you need to make her feel safe enough to do so. That can be tricky, because who knows what bogeymen from her past make that feel unsafe.
zxttracr, have you tried Poetry of the Silent Eros, yet? Just being in the mood will generally open both partners to trying new things, and perhaps suggesting something during a passionate session will work wonders. With all those endorphins flowing, new things don't seem so scary. And remember, start small. If she's uncomfortable, jumping right into anal is probably going to be less successful than some near oral play.
To hear a woman's fantasies, you need to make her feel safe enough to do so. That can be tricky, because who knows what bogeymen from her past make that feel unsafe.
Fear is a liar.
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway
