10-08-2012, 09:27 AM
(10-05-2012, 05:56 AM)Sean Wrote: Mat, I still suffer from black-and-white thinking frequently, and it's OK. That you can see the shades of gray is very good, and will definitely help you slay the depression beast.
Also beware overthinking. It is one of the things I struggle with daily, and is helped greatly by taking action. Rather than struggling with a decision and overthinking it, my goal is to make quick decisions and roll with them, right or wrong. If I'm wrong, it's a lesson learned, and I push myself to take pride in having learned it. Recognizing that mistakes and errors are not bad, that they are actually very good when handled appropriately, was critical in making that step, for me.
I'm not always successful in deciding quickly, but the relief of having made the decision outweighs the burden of sitting on it too long.
This is actually spot on. I'm guilty of overthinking too. I'm slowly moving towards this mindset. But it's a lot of forward progress and then a few setbacks. I never get any worse, I only get better, which is good. But again the few setbacks I need to start learning from instead of being overly focused on them being setbacks.
(10-05-2012, 11:43 AM)Spiral Wrote: I agree with Sean. Just going with your gut. Or just going wherever life takes you. Whatever it is roll with it. and learn from it. It is definitly also good to think about things and don't roll with it ALL the time. But.. what do I know.
Nah Spiral you've got the right idea. I think in my life I cultivated a lot of practice with thinking and analyzing. But going with my gut is something I have to start trusting more. I think it's just really tied to that fear of the unknown and my mind fights tooth and nail to have certainty. And you can't have absolute certainty in life, nothing is absolutely 100% certain, I wish that I could be ok with that. But something about that produces anxiety in me. And I know why, because if nothing is absolute that means that I'm not in control and bad things could happen.
