10-04-2012, 07:10 PM
(10-04-2012, 01:01 PM)Sean Wrote: The masculine typically WORKS through his emotions, whereas the feminine tends to TALK through her emotions. It's two approaches to the same goal.
Since we each have an aspect of the masculine and feminine within each of us, one may choose either or both paths. The archetypal image of a really masculine guy talking through a problem is him talking to a buddy at a bar while drinking (and alcohol is a feminine substance). No one needs to conform to that image. Whether one talks to a buddy somewhere, a therapist, or a hooker, they're utilizing the feminine path. At any time, they can also utilize the masculine path by working through it: either by problem/solution logic or by distraction with some other goal (building a business, building a tree house, cleaning out the garage, or building a boat, lifting heavy things and putting them back down, etc).
I'm doing both. I have a therapist. I also work out. I also used problem/solution and left my girlfriend who was working hard to keep me down and degrade me.
Thanks for the perspective Sean. This is stuff where I guess I'm trying to workout that both are acceptable. It's not always an either or solution, using both is better than just settling on one. So I'm guilty with black and white thinking. This is exactly the type of stuff that does my head in when I think about it too much. But I'm always learning and I recognize when I need to rethink things. Still I'd say for me, yes there is benefit to just talking to someone about the issues. But at the same time my mind wants a solution and that's where the subliminals come in for me.
