03-11-2024, 07:55 PM
"Creepy" is in the eye of the beholder. It's also used a lot by women these days to shame men just because they can, and it gets them attention for doing so. "Creepy" is a lot less common than most guys think, and when it happens, it's usually divisible into "genuinely creepy" and "this guy doesn't have enough experience with women to know how to express his interest yet". That latter one is just a situation where you have to learn how to express yourself in a socially acceptable way that she feels comfortable with.
For example, I would never have done the things I now do all the time with my girlfriend when we first met, because it wouldn't have been appropriate and she didn't know me well enough to be comfortable with these things. Then, it would have been creepy for her to have me to obviously look at her butt. Now she likes it, because she's familiar with me, she knows she can trust me, and she knows it's a compliment.
Genuine creepy is a situation where she feels uncomfortable with what you're doing and communicating because you haven't built the required relationship and trust yet and she doesn't feel safe as a result. The exact same thing (in some cases) can be perfectly acceptable after you have gotten to know each other well enough and she knows she is safe with you. Of course genuinely creepy behavior is usually coming from someone who is acting in a predatory manner and doing things that are socially unacceptable regardless. For example a blatantly guy trying to see up a random girl's skirt in public.
Guys who are concerned about "being creepy" are by definition almost never actually "being creepy" because genuinely creepy behavior results when the person (gals can be creepy too, been there and seen that first hand) doesn't have the self awareness or the awareness of acceptable social limits that prevents them from doing said creepy behavior.
Like I said, these days, a lot of women love to go on social media and claim someone is being/has been "creepy" just because it gets them attention and allows them to virtue signal. That sort of thing is BS, and it just makes guys not want to be around women.
For example, I would never have done the things I now do all the time with my girlfriend when we first met, because it wouldn't have been appropriate and she didn't know me well enough to be comfortable with these things. Then, it would have been creepy for her to have me to obviously look at her butt. Now she likes it, because she's familiar with me, she knows she can trust me, and she knows it's a compliment.
Genuine creepy is a situation where she feels uncomfortable with what you're doing and communicating because you haven't built the required relationship and trust yet and she doesn't feel safe as a result. The exact same thing (in some cases) can be perfectly acceptable after you have gotten to know each other well enough and she knows she is safe with you. Of course genuinely creepy behavior is usually coming from someone who is acting in a predatory manner and doing things that are socially unacceptable regardless. For example a blatantly guy trying to see up a random girl's skirt in public.
Guys who are concerned about "being creepy" are by definition almost never actually "being creepy" because genuinely creepy behavior results when the person (gals can be creepy too, been there and seen that first hand) doesn't have the self awareness or the awareness of acceptable social limits that prevents them from doing said creepy behavior.
Like I said, these days, a lot of women love to go on social media and claim someone is being/has been "creepy" just because it gets them attention and allows them to virtue signal. That sort of thing is BS, and it just makes guys not want to be around women.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
