AoL:The Journey to the Self Love I deserve

[Shannon]

You say you might be 33, but in the end you're still a manchild after all.  Do you want to change that?

YES!

I do want to change that!

Would be nice not having to worry about everything.

having the self confidence.

having the trust that I finally can get my stuff together. (dont know how much I can with Autism and seizures but still..) 

I like being able to have fun in life without being scared and tired all the time. 

I would love to get an girlfriend and mayby become Father one day. (like I said dont know how much of this is possible but still..)

so, Yes I would like to change that. : )

The first step to changing that is to recognize that you have accepted "manchild" as your identity, which is in large part enabling and resulting in the actions that perpetuate that reality.  In other words, you have accepted it as true and unchanging, and you therefore subconsciously (and maybe consciously as well) perpetuate that as being reality for yourself.

The secret to changing that starts with choosing to identify as a self sufficient adult, and start acting like and working towards accepting responsibility like a self sufficient adult.  It means you stop relying on everyone else to tell you who and what you are, and start making those choices for yourself.  It means you decide on a goal for yourself to achieve in terms of what you want to become, and then start consciously working towards it.  And you're going to need to harden up a bit, develop some thicker skin, and stop taking things so personally.  I started off that way as well, but once you understand what needs to be done, it can be done.  I did it using Alpha Male and, ironically Sex Magnet.  Sex Magnet, after several runs of Alpha Male, seems to have been what finally broke through my social anxiety.

It also means that you stop seeking for what you need and want, including approval, permission and love, from others and start providing them for yourself first.  No woman worth having is ever going to choose a manchild, never mind willingly have kids with someone who can't or won't be as strong or stronger than she is, and capable of taking care of himself at the very least.

If you want this, you have a lot of changes to make to yourself, and those changes are going to naturally result in changes in every other part of your life, including your relationship with your parents and everyone else as you start stepping up, becoming the adult you should be at your age, and setting personal boundaries.  You're going to make mistakes in learning this new thing called being a self sufficient man, and that's okay.  It's not always easy to grow and deal with change, but trying to stagnate and hide from the fact that change is the only constant will only make your life progressively worse and harder.

I suggest that when you are ready to make that change, that you first run Absolute Self Confidence for a month or two, and then move on to Alpha Male v6 or later.

And no, it's not going to be easy, and sometimes it won't be fun or comfortable.  But as a man, an adult, you know that that is a standard part of being an adult man, and you learn to deal with it, instead of letting it stop you.

Now the question you have to ask yourself is... am I going to make excuses and hide again, or am I going to make the changes that are necessary to get what will make me happy for once in my life?