Hi All,
I'm a few weeks in now. My wife is about 3 weeks in, also.
Not seeing that much different. Though there were some interesting but (I believe) completely unrelated effects that I am thinking about and may share more about at a future time:
1) my libido tanked about 10 or 12 days ago. Went from high, to 'who cares' overnight.. This is an emotional, psychological and even physical thing. Strange-- in paradise, relaxing, having fun with my sexy wife and had to TRY to feel something. At least I was able to drum up enough enthusiasm to pull it off many times, but wow, never lacked enthusiasm for sex before.
2) About a week ago started feeling much more focused, centered and aware of my life and those around me. Sort of a Love reaction as well. Felt overwhelming concern, appreciation and gratitude for those around me. While I had felt flashes of this in the past few and far between, even right now I could close my eyes and turn on this deep source of compassion and gratitude.
Oh, and yesterday, when I spoke Spanish (I am bilingual) to the couple that cleans our house, chatting with them for minutes on end, my comprehension was better than it had ever been, and my fluency was perfect, no searching for words, no circumlocutions--it flowed better than ever. AND that is after not speaking any Spanish for 2 straight weeks.
There was one event on our return flight across the Pacific. There was an young, attractive Japanese flight attendant. The NICEST flight attendant I have had since probably pre-2001. Certainly the best in over a decade. She chatted me up, asked for advice, acted curious about our trip and our normal lives. She did seem mostly attracted/directed to me though.
Thoughts? @Shannon
I'm a few weeks in now. My wife is about 3 weeks in, also.
Not seeing that much different. Though there were some interesting but (I believe) completely unrelated effects that I am thinking about and may share more about at a future time:
1) my libido tanked about 10 or 12 days ago. Went from high, to 'who cares' overnight.. This is an emotional, psychological and even physical thing. Strange-- in paradise, relaxing, having fun with my sexy wife and had to TRY to feel something. At least I was able to drum up enough enthusiasm to pull it off many times, but wow, never lacked enthusiasm for sex before.
2) About a week ago started feeling much more focused, centered and aware of my life and those around me. Sort of a Love reaction as well. Felt overwhelming concern, appreciation and gratitude for those around me. While I had felt flashes of this in the past few and far between, even right now I could close my eyes and turn on this deep source of compassion and gratitude.
Oh, and yesterday, when I spoke Spanish (I am bilingual) to the couple that cleans our house, chatting with them for minutes on end, my comprehension was better than it had ever been, and my fluency was perfect, no searching for words, no circumlocutions--it flowed better than ever. AND that is after not speaking any Spanish for 2 straight weeks.
There was one event on our return flight across the Pacific. There was an young, attractive Japanese flight attendant. The NICEST flight attendant I have had since probably pre-2001. Certainly the best in over a decade. She chatted me up, asked for advice, acted curious about our trip and our normal lives. She did seem mostly attracted/directed to me though.
Thoughts? @Shannon
