(08-29-2012, 11:30 AM)Spiral Wrote: I think you'd benefit from getting exposure from SM I can't say much for WM but maybe WM in 5.0 g could be your next stop. What you have I would think seems very easy to fix.. I used to judge people like crazy but not anymore. Took me 2 runs of alpha and 1 run of SM. May do the same for you. WM would probably be best though when it comes to SM. Oh, gratitude and appreciation could very well change your whole view on things completely so look into that too. I'm curious to see what Shannon thinks.
Yeah I think the judgment of people is projection from being overly self critical about myself. But that's cool that SM took that away from you. It's been one of these things that just pops up and I don't like it, but at the same time it's been such a hard habit to break. I tend to judge myself for it too!
Shannon Wrote:I think I am currently too tired to think.
SM 2.0 is really awesome for socializing you. WM 2.0 is going to be good for socializing, too, and I'd say it will probably be a little better at disconnecting from analytical and critical responses to women based on some of the things a few of you guys suggested that made it in.
In either case, I think you'll be best served by using ASC.in 5G for a while first before doing anything else, Mat.
Thanks Shannon. WM 2.0 sounds good. I like the idea of it better than sex magnet, seems to resonate with who I am more.
How long do you think I should use ASC for? I was thinking maybe 3 months?
In the meantime I believe a side effect of increased confidence now is I'm more confident in challenging long held perspectives I've had about the world around me. Prior to this sub I had a tendency to doubt myself a lot and devalue my own views. Also I have a fair bit of OCD, in that I have trouble with consistently questioning my own views and fearing that I'm terribly wrong. It kind of made me feel like I was never solidly on my own two feet and anyone could come by and manipulate how I feel because I wasn't confident in myself. Anyway since listening to this sub my OCD has subsided a lot and I feel more confident in making my own judgments without fear of being wrong. I also realized how tightly I would hold onto ideas just because I felt secure in them, even if they weren't right. I used to think I was always incredibly open minded, but I realized that in some ways I held myself to these constant memes in my life because it felt more secure.
But one thing that's been on my mind a lot is the sexist assumption that men think about sex every 7 seconds. I can't relate to guys that are so controlled by the impulse they throw all caution to the wind. But once again the media starts all of this. The portrayal of men is just damaging because not only do guys have to disprove this assumption, but I'm sure plenty of guys are led to believe that they have to think this way otherwise they don't fit in with other men. Funny how peer pressure is discussed so much in school and then when people grow up to be adults they think they are above it, all the while being subtly influenced in ways they may not even realize.
