08-29-2012, 11:23 AM
I just thought I'd drop in a little insight I seem to have developed. Being that I am a heavily black and white thinker, I like to put things in categories. It's a bad habit of thinking I'm trying to get over.
Now one thing I've realized is that attractive women are one of those things where I'd judge them. I don't know what it is, but I have a tendency to believe that the more attractive a girl is or the closer she is to having a typical trendy look, I lump her in with all the other girls I've seen that have also dressed like that. I think the reason is because I've seen attractive girls be really dumb, but guys still suck up to them and they think they are the greatest thing to walk the earth because of it. Unfortunately I've associated a typical look, with a type of person.
I'm trying to undo this. It's just that the negative sticks out more than the positive. I want to get to a place where I can see a person and see them for an individual, not part of some categorical box I put them in. That's just gonna take awareness and restructuring of my thought process. I think it would be a hell of a lot easier to keep grouping people into categories. But that's not who I am, and I'm always trying to see people as they are.
I admit that I make my life tough at times by pondering these things, but in a lot of ways I'm dedicated to knowing the truth and trying to see things for what they are, not what I think they are. That being said I think both sexes experience their own difficulties. These difficulties are both equally valid, even if they are very different. So women should acknowledge men's difficulties, and men should acknowledge women's difficulties. No more of this, I think men have it harder or I think women have it harder.
Now one thing I've realized is that attractive women are one of those things where I'd judge them. I don't know what it is, but I have a tendency to believe that the more attractive a girl is or the closer she is to having a typical trendy look, I lump her in with all the other girls I've seen that have also dressed like that. I think the reason is because I've seen attractive girls be really dumb, but guys still suck up to them and they think they are the greatest thing to walk the earth because of it. Unfortunately I've associated a typical look, with a type of person.
I'm trying to undo this. It's just that the negative sticks out more than the positive. I want to get to a place where I can see a person and see them for an individual, not part of some categorical box I put them in. That's just gonna take awareness and restructuring of my thought process. I think it would be a hell of a lot easier to keep grouping people into categories. But that's not who I am, and I'm always trying to see people as they are.
I admit that I make my life tough at times by pondering these things, but in a lot of ways I'm dedicated to knowing the truth and trying to see things for what they are, not what I think they are. That being said I think both sexes experience their own difficulties. These difficulties are both equally valid, even if they are very different. So women should acknowledge men's difficulties, and men should acknowledge women's difficulties. No more of this, I think men have it harder or I think women have it harder.
