DMSI 3.3.2 discussion panel

[Shannon]

I am not addicted to porn nor do I find it very enjoyable lately, especially when running DMSI, the desire to watch porn almost none. But I did watch alot of it in the past. And sometimes I do get the urge to watch when I don't have sex for a while.

I know how harmful porn can be to the brain and our psychology.

So here is the trick/suggestion that came to me.

I kept telling and suggesting to my brain that it was me who was having great sex and great moments with different sexy women. All the videos (of porn) I watched it was me and not some random dude.  


It's just a trick I did. Not even for a long time. And guess what. It somehow worked. Last time I was with a friend of mine. I did perform really well. And she gave me pretty nice bj that I see in porn only. I was behaving like porn stars.

Not sure if this suggestion came to me from DMSI or it was just me utilizing my past. But the suggestion came while I was in the shower. During my days using DMSI

Now this all could be DMSI doing

But Shannon, is it possible to use past porn experience as a positive investment in our sexual performance??

First, understand that there are so many different kinds and types and styles of porn, so many different subjects, etc. that when you say "porn" really what you mean is "people having sex that the majority of people would not consider to have any redeeming qualities beyond for the sake of creating sexual arousal in certain viewers".

There are types of porn that portray intimacy that includes sex, and types of porn that objectify and everything in between.  

Most of the porn available on the Internet and in adult stores is aimed at the majority of the male population, and that type of porn basically caters to the lowest common denominator, which is guys who just want help getting off.  It strongly tends to portray sexual acts and situations that have little to no relation to reality.  In that, it is very harmful to those who watch it because it causes them to think those sorts of situations and actions are normal, and to expect them.  They are not normal.  Most people don't behave that way or think that way in real life.

In order to cater to the demographic they are aiming to get to buy something, there are a lot of things about pornography that are blatantly fake.  Seeing guys ejaculate huge amounts can and does make guys who are perfectly normal feel like they're not good enough, because nobody tells them that the guy's got a tube under his penis and that huge load isn't even ejaculate.  Someone off camera is pumping a bulb to make it come out.  Or that most guys don't actually enjoy porn style blowjobs, where she's being very aggressive and using her hands at the same time.  Most of what you see in porn is ACTING, and not reality.

There's a lot of negatives to watching porn unless you understand these things and you either find the right kind of porn, or you take it as being fake acted sex.  And of course, as long as you don't partake too much and let it warp your mind and body.

That said, you can try to use memories of past exposure to porn as programming by re-framing it in the right way, as you said you did.  But that brings with it the issue that most porn is fake, and most men/women don't really act like that or want that.  By using pron to program yourself that way, you're either going to need to use porn that reflects positive sexual experiences or you run the risk of removing all the "real" women from your life and being left with only those who, like you, believe the porn is real instead of acted.  That's not healthy.