UMS. Let’s get at it

[Paul1131]

WIFE: She called me when she got off work and said that she was “in her head” because a small project that she normally would have gotten was given to someone else. Her boss told the other person that it was because she was doing something else at the time. She hadn’t been. So my wife is now wondering if it’s because she is too slow, or if she does things wrong that she isn’t being told about. Most likely her boss just had a brain fart. One of those negative thinking feeling cycles that over thinkers are prone to. When some little thing happens that maybe might point to something negative happens and they don’t have all the answers.
This used to happen to me all the time so I feel for her. A year on things that have some version of FRM in them seems to have mostly gotten rid of that tendency. The good news is that she didn’t sound that freaked out, and she didn’t turn it into anger at me like she often would have.
She is definitely making progress, but there is still a ways to go.