All the women around me seem dehydrated- DMSI

[Chris P. Bacon]

This is just my opinion but my intuition is telling me that the pearl inside the shell of fear is what you identify as or your identity. If we remove fear then we run into the concept of how to change what we identify with and therefore become. If there is no fear how do you convince the deepest part of yourself to change what it identifies with?

Your premises are in error.  Your first premise assumes that you need fear to exist to have an identity, or protect your identity.  Your second premise is that you require fear to know how to adjust what you identify with.  Neither of these is true.

Indeed you are correct.

What my experience has taught me is that most if not everyone has at one point in their life incorporated one or more fears into the fabric of their existence. It's not that it's a requirement, it just that it's so common it seems like one of the givens in life. Those who live without fear are generally an exception. 

I as an idealist agree with you completely and for me the very fact that I have noticed something like this is exciting. The part of me that observes notices that almost everyone I have encountered in life has incorporated one or more fears deep into their experience of reality and generally it is so normal that it has slipped out of their conscious awareness.

This is where I am experiencing something new. That the fear doesn't have to exist in me and that layer that I used as a self-defense mechanism does not have to be there if I don't want it to. Fear is not an absolute, nor is it a necessity, but it sells itself like one. Once you realize that it doesn't have to be there if you don't want it to be it's like looking at a paper tiger and then realizing how thin it really is. You are correct when you say that fear isn't a necessary part of anyone's existence. 


The question I have is what does it look like to live without it and what does it feel like to choose to change your identity willingly without fear and simply because you want to? Fear is a terrible master and I personally have lived under it for a long time. Now that I am understanding and experiencing life without fear what will life look like from now on? It's like a slave getting his freedom back and just outside those free gates a whole world awaits. It's a little overwhelming. Not only that but this brings up one of the most unnerving questions that just fails very quickly to be properly put into words. 

What is what we call identity? Quite frankly it's a mystery to me. To try to put into words something that all of us have but many of us don't stop to look at and is so fundamental to our existence but the knowledge and understanding of just doesn't hit too many people. 

I'm rambling my thoughts into words so I'll stop here.