09-03-2019, 11:49 AM
WIFE: This was her first day of work. She called and said that she’s really loving her new job so far, and that it’s pretty much what she was doing before but it’s easier. She was saying that this might be a place that she wants to retire from.
ME: The next step to getting us out of financial trouble is to get some things paid off and improve her credit with the extra money and then refi like we were originally planning. To that end, I’ve been cleaning like a crazy person. The house became a real disaster area while I was working all of the extra hours. I have to say, this sub isn’t as good at keeping negative emotions down as LTU was. I’m feeling quite a bit of frustration and anger at the wife and the roommate right now. On the other hand, maybe I have a right to, and FRM is allowing me to feel it. I get that they both have health issues that keep them from being at full strength, but the wife was off for a month and a half and didn’t do a lick of cleaning while I was working double. I am doing all of the work for a four person household on my own, and I have been for a really long time.
I noticed a difference in how I’m thinking about getting this stuff done too. Before I was concerned about not doing things in a way that she wouldn’t like. Now, I don’t care. If I have to do it all, I’ll decide how it gets done, and she can be mad about it.
ME: The next step to getting us out of financial trouble is to get some things paid off and improve her credit with the extra money and then refi like we were originally planning. To that end, I’ve been cleaning like a crazy person. The house became a real disaster area while I was working all of the extra hours. I have to say, this sub isn’t as good at keeping negative emotions down as LTU was. I’m feeling quite a bit of frustration and anger at the wife and the roommate right now. On the other hand, maybe I have a right to, and FRM is allowing me to feel it. I get that they both have health issues that keep them from being at full strength, but the wife was off for a month and a half and didn’t do a lick of cleaning while I was working double. I am doing all of the work for a four person household on my own, and I have been for a really long time.
I noticed a difference in how I’m thinking about getting this stuff done too. Before I was concerned about not doing things in a way that she wouldn’t like. Now, I don’t care. If I have to do it all, I’ll decide how it gets done, and she can be mad about it.
