08-16-2019, 11:11 PM
ME: The wife was clearly mad about something most of today, but keeping quiet about it. That’s not normal. At some point I realized that she was actually trying to control it rather than tearing into me for something. That’s progress and not something I was really expecting. I wasn’t worrying about relationship stuff until we got into at least a stable financial situation. We were looking at houses again today,. I was actually thinking of some of the more expensive ones that we saw as possible even though they aren’t right now today.
We went to a discussion group that we go to sometimes, and I was seated across from another regular. She’s a rather attractive woman who I know, but who doesn’t normally talk to me. Since I’ve been working so much, I hadn’t been there in a while, and hadn’t seen her. I commented that she looked thinner and she lit up and said “thank you”. She spent the rest of the evening talking to me pretty much exclusively. There was definitely an undertone of flirtation there, and I could tell she wanted some other kind of attention from me, but didn’t want to act out of line. I don’t know if that’s because I’m married or just that my wife was right there. She was making eye contact every time she could, and went so far as to give me a good long view down her shirt a few times. I had a pretty difficult time pretending I didn’t notice. I mention this because I’ve known her for years and haven’t gotten a hint that she’s interested.
I also noticed that people seemed to listen to me a bit more during the discussion. Also whenever I’m in public my voice seems to have gotten louder and deeper, I automatically act like I’m in charge.
We went to a discussion group that we go to sometimes, and I was seated across from another regular. She’s a rather attractive woman who I know, but who doesn’t normally talk to me. Since I’ve been working so much, I hadn’t been there in a while, and hadn’t seen her. I commented that she looked thinner and she lit up and said “thank you”. She spent the rest of the evening talking to me pretty much exclusively. There was definitely an undertone of flirtation there, and I could tell she wanted some other kind of attention from me, but didn’t want to act out of line. I don’t know if that’s because I’m married or just that my wife was right there. She was making eye contact every time she could, and went so far as to give me a good long view down her shirt a few times. I had a pretty difficult time pretending I didn’t notice. I mention this because I’ve known her for years and haven’t gotten a hint that she’s interested.
I also noticed that people seemed to listen to me a bit more during the discussion. Also whenever I’m in public my voice seems to have gotten louder and deeper, I automatically act like I’m in charge.
