I have something like 3 journals and every time something happens... It gets me wonder in which journal my event would be more appropriate to write into.
It is nothing sexual so it's not DMSI or SM related. It certainly is related to assertiveness so I feel the best journal to write about it is here.
I went to the restaurant this evening with the gf and the 2 kids. I picked the restaurant because I have seen advertisement in the last 2 weeks about their new beef rib plate. The sole reason why I wanted to go there was to taste their beef rib plate.
The plate isn't cheap. It is $30. and because it is special, I wanted to take some red wine with it. I did order a half liter of red wine at $22. I never order wine but I thought that it was the only choice to fully experience the beef rib plate.
So the waitress take our order... Leaves... come back with the beverage... My memory is a bit fuzzy but I wonder if she didn't come back with the appetizer salads...
Once we started eating and drinking.. The waitress come back with a sad puppy face telling me that they are out of beef ribs... She propose to give me back the menu to pick something else...
I'm very not happy about the situation. I look at the menu but there is nothing else in it that will make me happy. So I say no thank you.. There is nothing else that I want...
Honestly, I felt trapped because foods and drinks have been served... If she did told me about not have what I wanted BEFORE... I did order... I guess my options would have been to accept the fact or leave... Once I started to drink and eat the appetizers, I kinda felt obliged to accept the situation.
The table beside us got served the damn last beef rib. We must have ordered the same thing about at the same time. Maybe if I did insist more and threaten to leave without paying if they don't respect serving us the order that they have willingly taken, maybe they would have find a way to assign me the last beef rib to avoid the conflict.
At the end of the dinner where I did look the rest of my family eat while I waited for them, I have been very vocal about my dissatisfaction. The waitress made her manager come at our table to apologize, she gave me a $10 discount on the bill... but that wasn't enough... minimally, they should have refunded me the wine that I took solely to drink with the beef rib that I ordered.
I did explain to my waitress and I wasn't upset about her at all... My anger was on the restaurant organization as a whole. To me, it is unacceptable to start being served and after the service start, you announce me that I won't have what I did order. It is like a breach of contract. Once, you accept my order and start to serve me, I expect to receive what I did order... In retrospect, I think that I should have said to the waitress, find me another beef rib or we are leaving.
In the moment, it didn't occur to me that it was the thing to do... but at least I did clearly express my dissatisfaction... Something that probably wouldn't occur to do prior AM6. Poor waitress... despite having being clear that my rant wasn't against her specifically but against the organization as a whole... She took it personal and I kinda stop my rant when I saw that she was starting to drop some tears...
Anyway, I'm starting AM6 Stage 7 tomorrow morning with the goal to jump in SM3 in 4 weeks....
It is nothing sexual so it's not DMSI or SM related. It certainly is related to assertiveness so I feel the best journal to write about it is here.
I went to the restaurant this evening with the gf and the 2 kids. I picked the restaurant because I have seen advertisement in the last 2 weeks about their new beef rib plate. The sole reason why I wanted to go there was to taste their beef rib plate.
The plate isn't cheap. It is $30. and because it is special, I wanted to take some red wine with it. I did order a half liter of red wine at $22. I never order wine but I thought that it was the only choice to fully experience the beef rib plate.
So the waitress take our order... Leaves... come back with the beverage... My memory is a bit fuzzy but I wonder if she didn't come back with the appetizer salads...
Once we started eating and drinking.. The waitress come back with a sad puppy face telling me that they are out of beef ribs... She propose to give me back the menu to pick something else...
I'm very not happy about the situation. I look at the menu but there is nothing else in it that will make me happy. So I say no thank you.. There is nothing else that I want...
Honestly, I felt trapped because foods and drinks have been served... If she did told me about not have what I wanted BEFORE... I did order... I guess my options would have been to accept the fact or leave... Once I started to drink and eat the appetizers, I kinda felt obliged to accept the situation.
The table beside us got served the damn last beef rib. We must have ordered the same thing about at the same time. Maybe if I did insist more and threaten to leave without paying if they don't respect serving us the order that they have willingly taken, maybe they would have find a way to assign me the last beef rib to avoid the conflict.
At the end of the dinner where I did look the rest of my family eat while I waited for them, I have been very vocal about my dissatisfaction. The waitress made her manager come at our table to apologize, she gave me a $10 discount on the bill... but that wasn't enough... minimally, they should have refunded me the wine that I took solely to drink with the beef rib that I ordered.
I did explain to my waitress and I wasn't upset about her at all... My anger was on the restaurant organization as a whole. To me, it is unacceptable to start being served and after the service start, you announce me that I won't have what I did order. It is like a breach of contract. Once, you accept my order and start to serve me, I expect to receive what I did order... In retrospect, I think that I should have said to the waitress, find me another beef rib or we are leaving.
In the moment, it didn't occur to me that it was the thing to do... but at least I did clearly express my dissatisfaction... Something that probably wouldn't occur to do prior AM6. Poor waitress... despite having being clear that my rant wasn't against her specifically but against the organization as a whole... She took it personal and I kinda stop my rant when I saw that she was starting to drop some tears...
Anyway, I'm starting AM6 Stage 7 tomorrow morning with the goal to jump in SM3 in 4 weeks....
