LTU: Moving forward

[Shannon]

You attune yourself to the "version of reality" you experience by holding the genuine beliefs that attune with that version of reality.  The reality you experience starts within you, therefore, and thus it makes perfect sense that you must believe the things that create the attunement before you experience the results of the attunement.

If you want to listen to rock 'n roll, and you're on a jazz station, you can't get mad because the music is jazz.  You have to change the channel, and when you do, you automatically hear the results of that channel change.

Thanks Shannon. This post adresses some fears I have about being left by people I care about. I'm worried if I get a gf, she'll leave once the going gets rough. This reminds me that the Law of Attraction is at play and I have to believe I'll get someone who will stay. Problem is, it's hard to change one's beliefs to ones that are contrary to one's personal experiences. I guess I just really have to do a lot of thorough healing first.

You are still misunderstanding some things.

You are not dealing with the LOA as such here.  You're dealing with something above that law.  

You are currently stuck because you fear being left by a girlfriend if the going gets rough, and your fear is based on a logical fallacy (insisting on the past) and it is simultaneously focusing you into, and creating that reality for you.  The fact is that what you have experienced in the past does not necessitate, dictate or predict what you will experience in the future unless you're dealing with a verifiable cycle (such as the phases of the moon).

Just because you have had that happen to you in the past does not mean it has to happen in the future.  The future is rarely limited, and when it is, it is only limited for relatively short periods of time.  

When you get stabbed, the pain triggers a natural response to tighten the muscle, and that causes the pain to increase.  You must relax that muscle to lessen the pain.  Likewise, when you have something hurt you emotionally, your automatic reaction (until you understand and know better) is to focus on, fixate on, hold onto and even magnify that pain.  By focusing into it you are intensifying your attunement to that "channel" of reality.  The goal is to recognize this, and outgrow the fear that results in this focus and fixation, and subsequent anchoring into the reality you don't want.

You have to deal with that fear.  The experience that generates that fear must be understood as it actually is: even if you experienced it twice or more, it only shows you what you are currently focusing on internally, because that is what generates your external experience.  Once you stop focusing on it and shift your focus elsewhere, you will get whatever results you focus on.

So it's not about "I choose to believe this at the conscious level".  It's about getting your subconscious to understand that "Hey, this hurt me, but it's only happening because I misunderstood how things work.  I can focus myself into what I do what and experience that instead."

The more you experience it without that understanding, the more you will typically tend to unintentionally reinforce those beliefs and reactions that increase your focus and anchoring into that reality.  Then people see that it happens over and over again and they conclude that "It happened X number of times, so it's always going to happen like that."  This is the logical fallacy of insisting on the past.  It's not true, of course, but when you believe it you effectively make it true by acting as if it is true and excluding other options.  This only serves to reinforce it.  A negative spiral within a negative spiral.

The future can be whatever you want it to be, as long as you genuinely understand these things and respond accordingly.