04-11-2019, 01:57 PM
(04-11-2019, 05:23 AM)Shannon Wrote: I would suggest that the goal being to joke it off, in any way, is not the right goal. The goal is, in my opinion, to develop enough strength and self esteem to calmly, but firmly, point out to your wife that her actions are unreasonable and unfair, and that you don't deserve to be treated that way and simply will not be. That she will treat you with the consideration and respect you deserve, as a person and a husband, or there will be a change that forces that.
This is not my relationship, but that's what I would do. Simply accepting bad treatment is never the right option, in my opinion.
Thanks Shannon. This is exactly what I’ve been thinking for a while, though there are a couple of other factors. First off, she has been doing a LOT better lately especially since I started LTU. In fact, now that I think about it, this is the first time she’s been degrading like that in months. It’s not acceptable but I’m kinda waiting and seeing if the improvements continue or Igbo this becomes a regular occurrence again.What kind of changes are you talking about? I a man establishing boundaries, but im a bit short on tacticsfor enforcing them against someone who insists on crossing them. If it goes back to the way I think was, I’ll leave the relationship, but invest not ready to do that yet.
Second thing is that she has a degenerative brain disease which can cause anger issues etc. So I don’t know how much of this she actually CAN control. We saw a marked improvement when she went on meds which tells me that some of it might be a brain problem rather than just her being a jerk.
