03-28-2019, 08:05 AM
(03-27-2019, 06:57 AM)swisston Wrote:(03-26-2019, 10:40 AM)Shannon Wrote: At the conscious level, if you were going to resist the program's instructions, what would be the reason and motivation?Fear of the consequences and being judged by my gf and others. I have seen so much harsh judgement of people who have affairs and/or cheat. I am at risk of falling into that trap if women come on to me (until I get used to it).
I was hoping that DMSI would build me up slowly to give me more confidence and charisma with women. I don't want to be a 'boy' anymore inside. I think that a balance is possible between being highly attractive and controlling one's urges. If other opportunities with other women came along, maybe I would choose to separate from my gf. I'd like to see what's available in the world to me, but I'm also scared of that unfamiliarity.
It's good to see you understand these things.
So from where I am standing, it looks like what this boils down to is that you have yourself painted into a corner, and you're afraid of change because you perceive it as being a threat to your security. You want a change, but you're afraid of it at the same time.
If you are with your GF and unhappy, or with her only because she's "the devil you know", then two things are true.
1. There is a 100% chance that someone else is out there who is going to make you happier, and
2. You are in that relationship for the wrong reasons.
You can be irresistibly attractive to others without cheating, but you have to own your choices first. You have already decided that you don't want the reaction you would get from cheating, which is certainly understandable. But if you're saying that other opportunities may result in you separating from your GF, then are you really in it for the right reasons? Are you really happy? And what reasons are you in it for? It would seem that this is something you're doing to have security, and given the statement about not wanting to be a boy anymore, it reminds me of a younger version of me who would seek out women so they could be my mommy and act as my security blanket. Is that what you have done here? If that is the case, then the key is going to be growing past that, and DMSI isn't the right program for that. You're going to want something that will spur internal growth and maturity. AM6+, LTU, maybe even E3 or others. Although I'm pretty sure you would take a while to get to that point on AM6, given how much less powerful it is than current releases.
Maybe you'd be better off focusing on that instead of DMSI for the time being? Although I do find your feedback useful, I'm not sure DMSI will be going in a direction that will solve that specific point of contention for you. It looks like a pattern is emerging, where people who use DMSI when they really need something else, find that DMSI gets stuck for them.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!