I am currently in the break between cycle #4 and #5. I originally planned to use DMSI 3 months. I started 2 months ago so I must still have about 3 more cycles to do I guess. When I asked advice about going straight to SM3 or do a small DMSI period for trying out FRM, Shannon hinted that possibly during my DMSI usage, there could be a new DMSI release... Things haven't gone as planned it seems as I am not seeing very likely to see another DMSI release in the next month... (or else I would think the hype would start building around the event...)
Yesterday, FWB dropped a bomb.
Since our hook up last Thursday, she has kept messaging daily to tell how much she did like the encounter and she is thinking about it very often and she gets very wet each time.
We were texting each other some naughty messages... I was pumping her buying temperature and at a high point,
I asked: When are you available this week for continuing what we started last week?
Her: I am free wednesday through Sunday. How about you?
Me: I would be available Wednesday during the day or Thursday.
Her: Wednesday, I took a day off from the job but I have various appointments so I can't. For Thursday, I did receive an invitation from a male acquaintance to hook up with him. I haven't decided yet what I'm going to do with the invitation so maybe we can see each other on Thursday or maybe not.
Me: I understand. Well, I'll let you decide what you want to do most on Thursday and let me know when you made up your mind.
Later that night, she texted me because she wanted to exchange naughty messages. I did ignore her.
Honestly, that was unexpected from a girl who, based on her feedback, I was in the sex god level in her mind. I consider telling me that she is hesitating to get her sexual satisfaction from me or another guy a bad behavior and I cannot reward her with my attention in those circumstances. That is not the position that I want to hold in her mind.
There are many thoughts that are flying into my head about what is happening.
1. She is playing mind games with me to shit test me. Try to instill jealousy... Try to suscitate a reaction from me. See if I'm going to supplicate and beg her. It doesn't make any sense that she told me WHY she might not be available. Just saying that she doesn't yet know if she is available that night would have suffice. I am not expecting exclusivity from a casual partner but if I was in a situation like that with 2 girls that I wanted to do both of them but I had a schedule conflict. I would avoid to tell the girl I cancel why unless I want to play with her. OTOH, I did hook up very directly with her. Hence maybe she is reciprocating with no BS
If it is a silly mind game... I can be on top of that. Be unreactive and simply ignore her until she tell me that I miss her and want to spend the evening with me. I will find her attempt cute...
2. If she is 100% honest about her dilema, my ego and self-esteem have a hard time accepting that. It is basically telling, well, I like you but you're kinda a backup plan and you are my #2 choice when it comes to sexual fun. My guts tells me to not accept that, respect myself and next her for that.
I'm currently reading Iceberg Slim Pimp book. If I'm not fully closing the option of letting her come back to me another time, next time she pings me, she will need to put a lot more on the table than just her ass... I think that I have been too cool with her.
So my plan, is wait her to reply back and let me know what she has decided. I will qualify or disqualify her based on if she is able to take good decisions. If she decide to hook up with me and that I did put zero pressure on her by ignoring her, I think this will be good as it will leverage the commitment and consistency principle. She choose me over the other guy. Now she need to justify the decision.
Yesterday, FWB dropped a bomb.
Since our hook up last Thursday, she has kept messaging daily to tell how much she did like the encounter and she is thinking about it very often and she gets very wet each time.
We were texting each other some naughty messages... I was pumping her buying temperature and at a high point,
I asked: When are you available this week for continuing what we started last week?
Her: I am free wednesday through Sunday. How about you?
Me: I would be available Wednesday during the day or Thursday.
Her: Wednesday, I took a day off from the job but I have various appointments so I can't. For Thursday, I did receive an invitation from a male acquaintance to hook up with him. I haven't decided yet what I'm going to do with the invitation so maybe we can see each other on Thursday or maybe not.
Me: I understand. Well, I'll let you decide what you want to do most on Thursday and let me know when you made up your mind.
Later that night, she texted me because she wanted to exchange naughty messages. I did ignore her.
Honestly, that was unexpected from a girl who, based on her feedback, I was in the sex god level in her mind. I consider telling me that she is hesitating to get her sexual satisfaction from me or another guy a bad behavior and I cannot reward her with my attention in those circumstances. That is not the position that I want to hold in her mind.
There are many thoughts that are flying into my head about what is happening.
1. She is playing mind games with me to shit test me. Try to instill jealousy... Try to suscitate a reaction from me. See if I'm going to supplicate and beg her. It doesn't make any sense that she told me WHY she might not be available. Just saying that she doesn't yet know if she is available that night would have suffice. I am not expecting exclusivity from a casual partner but if I was in a situation like that with 2 girls that I wanted to do both of them but I had a schedule conflict. I would avoid to tell the girl I cancel why unless I want to play with her. OTOH, I did hook up very directly with her. Hence maybe she is reciprocating with no BS
If it is a silly mind game... I can be on top of that. Be unreactive and simply ignore her until she tell me that I miss her and want to spend the evening with me. I will find her attempt cute...
2. If she is 100% honest about her dilema, my ego and self-esteem have a hard time accepting that. It is basically telling, well, I like you but you're kinda a backup plan and you are my #2 choice when it comes to sexual fun. My guts tells me to not accept that, respect myself and next her for that.
I'm currently reading Iceberg Slim Pimp book. If I'm not fully closing the option of letting her come back to me another time, next time she pings me, she will need to put a lot more on the table than just her ass... I think that I have been too cool with her.
So my plan, is wait her to reply back and let me know what she has decided. I will qualify or disqualify her based on if she is able to take good decisions. If she decide to hook up with me and that I did put zero pressure on her by ignoring her, I think this will be good as it will leverage the commitment and consistency principle. She choose me over the other guy. Now she need to justify the decision.
