LTU 5-Becoming the best version of myself

[Broski]

Hey guys I really appreciate all the input! I DID really start to like her and I know she really liked me too, but she still had feelings for her ex as well who popped up and finally offered her what she was waiting for and then she couldnt make up her mind between the two of us. I was just tired of stringing this thing along and not getting what I wanted out of the relationship anymore as well as I saw the great stress it was causing her, so with both those things in mind is why I decided o back off. It didnt seem like the right thing to do for me to just unhappily wait for her to make up her mind and possibly choose me. She just texted me last night asking how I was and we exchanged a few texts. I was honestly happy to hear from her because I missed talking to her, but at the same time I almost told her hey, I just really dont want to do this whole texting or talking thing anymore which I basically already alluded to when I broke things off. I needed up just not responding to one of her texts instead though. A part of me does wander if I made the wrong choice and should have stuck it and see if we coulda worked things out cause I seem to care about her this much. Idk, maybe if it is meant to be things wont work out with her ex and she will come back and realize I was the better choice for her.

I dont understand the whole, " It didnt seem like the right thing to do for me to just unhappily wait for her to make up her mind and possibly choose me." why are you waiting for her to choose you? It sounded more like she was waiting for you to STEP UP and make up your mind and tell her you want her. Why should she choose to be with you when she cant even trust you. you dont even have the strength to make up your mind on a decision. 

When you are wishy-washy, like you half want her but then half dont even know what you want... obviously shes gonna choose someone else.
"Idk, maybe if it is meant to be things wont work out with her ex and she will come back and realize I was the better choice for her."  Re-read your own words, see how indecisive you are being.

I guess I didnt explain the whole situation but when she told meabout her ex wanting to get back with her I brought up that I was considering dating her, and even said if I asked you to be my gf would you be able to leave him behind and she said she didnt know right now. Nothing was going anywhere and we weren't even able to continue with our friends with nbefits relationship I was enjoying so much and I didnt see thing being abe to go back to normal or progress with him being in the situation so that felt like the best thing for both me and her to do. I feel I DID man up in this case and chose the hard but right path

That's good you were true to your intentions. There's this idea that sometimes lot of guys misunderstand I'm not saying you do but just in case you did here it is.
if you really really like her. its also ok to chase and pursue her. its also ok to prove to her that u actually want her to be your girlfriend. it's not beta at all to do this in fact it is very attractive especially for a girl that you already have a decent level of intimacy with already.
anyways decisions are already made, best of luck in the future

Yeah I can see how thats not a black and white concept, but I think I already did a pretty good job of letting her know I cared about her and making her feel good as she told me so many times, and wasnt about to go out of my way to try to win her approval over the other guy.  I think I was already being pretty great to her and even got her a valentines day present even though we werent dating, so I wasnt about trying to win her over with any more acts. She couldnt choose so I had to make the choice for her and do what I thought was best. Thanks though man I appreciate it