My health hasn't improved much since last entry. I'm still combating a nasty cold. Not painful but it is draining a lot of my energy and I need much more sleep.
I did noticed that there was much less DMSI users journaling here lately... This makes this forum less enjoyable to me as I'm not reading the anecdotes that I can relate to from other people doing the same programming than me.
I was completing my second reading of DYD from AM6 suggested reading. This time my notes were better written. I guess that first time that I did read it, I have done so very fast.
Yeah, this is definitely a book from a different age. Most of it is still valid but imho, it suggest an approach way too much gently than is required in 2019...
Beside that, I did stumble into reading a book suggested by DYD. It is How to be the Jerk Women Love from F.J. Shark. This appears to be an out of print book but I have been lucky enough to find a bootleg copy free on the internet.
As opposed to what the title suggest, there is nothing misogynist in it. It simply suggest to put yourself first. Make receiving your attention a challenge and basically it goes in length about how you can leverage the commitment and consistency influence principle to your advantage.
The book give the example of asking your girlfriend to buy nice lingerie for you. The author says, if you don't ask, she won't do it. and I'm guilty to be too easy to please. I honestly don't care that much about lingerie but if it is not for you, you have to ask it for her because she wants to please you. and the more she does for you, the more she will value the relationship.
I bought pretty much of the advice contained in the book. I suspect the author to be a bit young because he kept refering to his experiences in high school but despite that detail, it was a good read.
I did read the whole thing in one shot. From cover to cover. I did read and then just forget about what I have just read.
The day after, I did surprise myself to start asking for small favors to my gf to which she gladly replied. What please me the most of all this is that the books that I read influence my behavior. I don't even need to think about it. It just happen by itself. I guess that this is a good indication that I am highly suggestible...
I did noticed that there was much less DMSI users journaling here lately... This makes this forum less enjoyable to me as I'm not reading the anecdotes that I can relate to from other people doing the same programming than me.
I was completing my second reading of DYD from AM6 suggested reading. This time my notes were better written. I guess that first time that I did read it, I have done so very fast.
Yeah, this is definitely a book from a different age. Most of it is still valid but imho, it suggest an approach way too much gently than is required in 2019...
Beside that, I did stumble into reading a book suggested by DYD. It is How to be the Jerk Women Love from F.J. Shark. This appears to be an out of print book but I have been lucky enough to find a bootleg copy free on the internet.
As opposed to what the title suggest, there is nothing misogynist in it. It simply suggest to put yourself first. Make receiving your attention a challenge and basically it goes in length about how you can leverage the commitment and consistency influence principle to your advantage.
The book give the example of asking your girlfriend to buy nice lingerie for you. The author says, if you don't ask, she won't do it. and I'm guilty to be too easy to please. I honestly don't care that much about lingerie but if it is not for you, you have to ask it for her because she wants to please you. and the more she does for you, the more she will value the relationship.
I bought pretty much of the advice contained in the book. I suspect the author to be a bit young because he kept refering to his experiences in high school but despite that detail, it was a good read.
I did read the whole thing in one shot. From cover to cover. I did read and then just forget about what I have just read.
The day after, I did surprise myself to start asking for small favors to my gf to which she gladly replied. What please me the most of all this is that the books that I read influence my behavior. I don't even need to think about it. It just happen by itself. I guess that this is a good indication that I am highly suggestible...
