02-28-2019, 08:09 AM
Dear Shannon and Ben, thank you for your posts. And damn..... I was going for two goals, one for conscription and two for next stage of my life. Both are equally important.
Oh well, I'll need to really think about it and figure out how to make these two into one goal. I have a feeling that these two are intertwined, and that making the two goals into one would be possible. I will need your help (and others) in checking whether I set a goal properly; not having negatives and all positives, while patching loopholes.
I'll think about it, and come up with a few statement for possible goals. I will also think about which one would be more pressing and important, in case that I cannot merge the two into one.
And @Ben,
The employee's crying and possibly the superior's crying were odd for a few reasons.
1. They were not having a confrontation.
I will try to clarify what was going on. Let's set the employee as A, the superior whom she was taking to as B, and the superior who she was complaining about as C.
A and B get along very well, and in the situation, A was whining/complaining about how her life/work has been difficult lately, and that C was especially the worst in making her life difficult/miserable. (I am extracting information from what I heard, which was basically that "C is the worst, and that he's contributing in making my life/work the most.")
A was basically the whiner and B was the listener, who was consoling A. I know B was consoling her because I also accidentally heard B's response.
2. This week's workload/work is not the worst seen. There were several times that I can think where work and workload was more difficult (for A), much more difficult. A never had such issue of crying in the public space before. (She went to more private space to cry, but it was still pretty public.) In fact, nobody had cried from what I have seen in the last 10 months or so. (Well, just of now I have 1 year left to go, and right now, the work is in a pretty easy time, but it is going to get pretty difficult...... I know as I've gone through nearly a year of the conscription.)
3. Talking behind backs, and complaining to each other about how their work sucks and superiors and/or bosses making their life happens all the time. Yes, I get to see and hear that too often, and that is one of the reasons why I consider my work environment pretty toxic. However, it usually just ends up as talking behind backs and they become pretty chill once after they dump all that stuff. Except yesterday, it never escalated that much into somebody's crying.
4. Timing. Okay, that much escalation happened the first time, and that happened when I just started LTU. Also, I mentioned how my emotional sensitivity has sky rocketed, while stability has become pretty
fragile. I was able to hang on, but not this employee. I just found the timing to be odd.
I mean it can all be just a coincidence, and like you wrote, it may be nothing. However, I felt it was odd, and thought to report it.
Oh well, I'll need to really think about it and figure out how to make these two into one goal. I have a feeling that these two are intertwined, and that making the two goals into one would be possible. I will need your help (and others) in checking whether I set a goal properly; not having negatives and all positives, while patching loopholes.
I'll think about it, and come up with a few statement for possible goals. I will also think about which one would be more pressing and important, in case that I cannot merge the two into one.
And @Ben,
The employee's crying and possibly the superior's crying were odd for a few reasons.
1. They were not having a confrontation.
I will try to clarify what was going on. Let's set the employee as A, the superior whom she was taking to as B, and the superior who she was complaining about as C.
A and B get along very well, and in the situation, A was whining/complaining about how her life/work has been difficult lately, and that C was especially the worst in making her life difficult/miserable. (I am extracting information from what I heard, which was basically that "C is the worst, and that he's contributing in making my life/work the most.")
A was basically the whiner and B was the listener, who was consoling A. I know B was consoling her because I also accidentally heard B's response.
2. This week's workload/work is not the worst seen. There were several times that I can think where work and workload was more difficult (for A), much more difficult. A never had such issue of crying in the public space before. (She went to more private space to cry, but it was still pretty public.) In fact, nobody had cried from what I have seen in the last 10 months or so. (Well, just of now I have 1 year left to go, and right now, the work is in a pretty easy time, but it is going to get pretty difficult...... I know as I've gone through nearly a year of the conscription.)
3. Talking behind backs, and complaining to each other about how their work sucks and superiors and/or bosses making their life happens all the time. Yes, I get to see and hear that too often, and that is one of the reasons why I consider my work environment pretty toxic. However, it usually just ends up as talking behind backs and they become pretty chill once after they dump all that stuff. Except yesterday, it never escalated that much into somebody's crying.
4. Timing. Okay, that much escalation happened the first time, and that happened when I just started LTU. Also, I mentioned how my emotional sensitivity has sky rocketed, while stability has become pretty
fragile. I was able to hang on, but not this employee. I just found the timing to be odd.
I mean it can all be just a coincidence, and like you wrote, it may be nothing. However, I felt it was odd, and thought to report it.
