(02-13-2019, 02:35 AM)Username Wrote:(02-12-2019, 10:30 AM)Shannon Wrote:(02-12-2019, 08:46 AM)Username Wrote: @Shannon
You said few pages back:"There's nothing wrong with that. I'm closer now to a balance between the two, but I am definitely an introvert, as I need time alone to recharge; dealing with people - especially in person - eventually exhausts me."
This is a great example, how your own brain needs much more adjustment... Introversion is just a label to the deeper processes that are going on, not a hardwired in your brain. Extraversion is the norm, but if you grow up surrounded by negative people... You just learn to close up. Underneath is the same old friend... Fear... Communicating with other people is associated with negative, and it is exhausting, cause running on fear just needs more energy. People have a fear of expressing certain emotions and so they are carrying around that big bag of stuff, that otherwise wouldn't be there... My humble suggestion would be to use your own work to deal with it.
But Im sure your subc comes up with all the great excuses not to... Haha :p... Cause that quote just sounds like a nice little rationalization to avoid seeing things as they are, to begin with.
Where do you come up with "extraversion is the norm"? There are two poles here, it's not a monopole. The norm is a point on a spectrum between the two.
You seem to be giving me some arrogant snark here. You can keep it. You don't know everything you think you know.
Nope, it's not about knowing... But understanding. What's behind labels of language. There are no poles or spectrum in the brain, only patterns of behavior. And extraversion is more healthy than the opposite. If you chain your dog and beat him every day, he's going to be a one hell of a mean and angry dog, who doesn't trust humans and sees them as enemies. And it's completely normal reaction to the environment. It's the same way with introverts, they have formed an idea, that expressing oneself to other people is a "hot stove" . So they constantly need to find other outlets and recharge them. And your reaction was quite predictable... a typical introvert's defensive way of interpreting and handling everything. But obviously, I'm just telling you, how I see things.... your behavior and choices your own business. I was just hoping that you, of all people, were a bit more open minded about it.
Your post seems to be full of hubris. The environment AND genes have a huge effect. We aren't all just blank slates when we are born, although subs and experience can have a big influence.
https://www.livescience.com/47288-twin-s...etics.html
