(01-18-2019, 06:37 AM)lano1106 Wrote: I went to a lounge yesterday evening...
I got plenty of female attention... 2 of the women that I did talk to were with their bf. It is like the girl that was choosing the spot beside me and after talking with them for 5-15 minutes, the guy was asking her gf if they can move somewhere else... It is smelling insecurity and jalousy.... The only way this could happen is if they were perceiving me as an Alpha... I like that...
I did practice mode 1 by complimenting girls on nice tits and ass. I did enrobbed the compliments with class and they were well taken but I need to push it even further...
The first girl with bf she was so hot that the one thing that I had in mind was to bring her with me in the bathroom to have sex with her...
Is it appropriate? no Could I have been critized? certainly. My guts tell me that I could have gotten away with it. She was turn on too. She could have said yes or no. that is her problem but she would have probably been flattered to know that she is arousing me...
There is maybe a moral issue here to have sex with an engaged woman. maybe. but is it really my problem? She comes in a lounge and out of every places that she could have choose, she choose to sit beside a guy that she is attracting to and she is flirting with him... I am not a white knight... I am a man with sexual desires... It is ok to think about ourselves first... I can put on her shoulders the burden of the morality issues... I want my live to be simple and fun... and as AM6 suggested reading book says: She will go for it if she is sure that there is no consequences
but anyway. I'm thinking out loud... I'm seeing this mostly as a social experiment. I had a fear of expressing my desires and I need to express them to find out that nothing bad will happen.
1 thing that I have found myself doing while talking to this girl is to indirectly bragging about some of the things that I do through some storytelling... maybe it was some mode 3 component of me that was talking... When I realize what I was doing... I did shut it down... I feel like only me did notice this thing that I was doing. It didn't to negatively impact my interaction... As if it is the overall presentation that matters... Not a single detail... but I feel that you are in the right direction when you become aware of some behavior that you want to change.
I have been hit on by a woman that I was NOT attracted to. Too old. Too big fat belly. but she was nice and kind. Since she knows a lot of hot women... that is good acquaintance to have... She went behind me and did some amazing back, neck, head massage. I think that she is a professional massage therapist. It felt really good and it lasted a good 40 minutes...
my feelings about that part of the evening are kinda mitigated. She was doing the massage maybe to seduce me... She is aware of how I'm feeling concerning her... It feels good maybe even arousing with all this touching... I am free to ask her to stop it anytime that I want but as long as it feels good. why not... OTOH... I am not sure that it is a good thing to let things escalate that far with a woman that you are not attracted too. This could lead to an 'accident' that you may regret. You want to increase your standard. Not lowering them... You don't want to create resentment by limiting the investment she does since at the end you know that the answer is going to be NO...
It is difficult to just receive without giving back but yesterday, I said to myself. What the hell. I'm going to be in receiving mode... Some people get satisfaction by giving. I'm going to let her be happy by letting her giving me a back massage. Overall, I felt like a Mr. Goodbar!
I would say that it wouldn't be a justifiable action, because you know that she has another relationship and that she would break a possible trust in this relationship because of your interaction. Sure, this may have happened anyway with someone else if she is inclined to leave the relationship, but that isn't really a way of motivating a justification of you doing the move. As an Alpha you should understand how your actions affect others who look up to you, and but encouraging someone to break a special bond (which a relationship is) built upon trust (which a relationship should be) you are discrediting the value of relationships and trust in general. This is the way I am reasoning, and you may reason in other directions, but to justify it because "you are a man with needs" isn't gonna fly in my book at least.
Interesting to read about your progress! I like what you wrote about "doing what is just and fair" in your episode at the hospital.
BTW I saw that you are thinking of switching to SM/DMSI. Why not run AM again 1-2 times more?
